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Game of Thrones for 13 year old

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:04

Hey, so we've been helping my SIL out a bit at weekends (DH's sister) and we have her teenage son over the last couple of days. I was just in the kitchen and DH was showing nephew first episode of Game of Thrones. DH and I have seen the entire thing, loved it. I told DH after SIL came to pick up nephew that I don't think it's appropriate for a 13 year old boy (it wasn't an argument, we are newlyweds and haven't really argued (yet!), we agree to always address things calmly and I wouldn't even call it a disagreement, but I was speaking carefully trying not to sound like I was making an issue, because it probably isn't)

DH doesn't see any issue as he said nephew is a teenager, so I'm just confused. It's not a big issue that I'm gonna lose sleep over, I just want opinions cause I'm dead confused. Should I say something to nephew's mum or leave it?

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continentallentil · 12/09/2023 21:49

FoodFann · 12/09/2023 21:38

This is really sad. A woman stands by and can see no foul play when a grown man wants to bond with a child by watching violent sexual content. Have you lost your mind OP?

It’s certificate 18 for a reason. It’s not your decision whether it’s acceptable or not for a child to watch. I would be livid if you and your H showed my 13 year old child anything cert 18. You might well be newly weds, but sometimes it’s worth stepping in and confronting your H, especially when you’ve got the opportunity to stop child abuse. What else would you sit by and allow in the name of ‘newlywedness’. What a ridiculous excuse.

I’m shocked that you can’t see how serious this is.

Even more concerning is that your H wants the “cool uncle thing”, but when it comes to exposing a child to violent sexual content as a way to be the cool uncle… it’s screaming red flags to me. Please keep your H well away from children.

You say you don’t want to ‘aggravate’ it, so won’t proactively tell the child’s mother. What is wrong with you? And the child will tell all his friends at school what he’s seen, so well done, that’s how many young minds ruined? If I was a parent of one of them I’d be reporting it to the school and there would be a safeguarding investigation as to why children are watching violent certificate 18 rape scenes.

I really hope your H has to face the music. He should be thoroughly ashamed of himself, and frankly, you’re not much better.

watching an Ep of GOT doesn’t equal ‘young minds ruined’

Neither does it make the OP’s husband a pervert as you insanely imply, he’s just an idiot trying to be cool.

No school is going to run a safeguarding investigation into some 13 yo kid watching at 18 rated show. (what are you ON?)

Cleatly it’s inappropriate.. but calm down, or get off the sauce, whatever.

Ohthatsabitshit · 12/09/2023 21:50

Not suitable and NOT ok at 13. FFS his mother is going to kill you both.

VeronicaSawyer89 · 12/09/2023 21:50

Christ no! I wouldn't let my DD's watch it until they were 16!

SootspriteSearcher · 12/09/2023 21:51

You definitely need to say something ASAP, if your nephew is anything like my dd they will now seek out and watch the rest alone. Being shown the first episode is almost a green light, ok for me to watch, which is definitely not the case.

My dd is nearly 15, has watched many 18 rated horror films with me but there is no way I would allow her to watch game of thrones. Its not necessarily the gore but more the psychological impact of the degradation of women, graphic rape/sex scenes and torture. Even as an adult who watches alot of horror films/TV series there are some scenes that really played on my mind and I will now skip when I've rewatched the series.

DanceMumTaxi · 12/09/2023 21:54

13 is definitely too young for GoT. It’s a properly adult programme.

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 22:02

Update: Just had to call SIL immediately on the phone, we had her on loudspeaker and she got mildly pissed at DH. I was a bit worried but thankfully DH wasn’t angry with me for putting him in it, he just seemed to find it amusing and said we were being silly. But SIL has very firmly told him not to show any more eps and he agreed. SIL has told us she has passwords and locks on adult programmes on their Netflix/TV and she will be keeping an eye on his laptop.

It’s sorted now, it just made me slightly concerned that he might do this sort of thing when we have our own. He’s usually sensible and mature but a bit… liberated/relaxed maybe? About this sort of thing. Hoping this is just a silly little blip but I’m going to continue being vocal quickly as poss so as to nip these things in the bud, communication is key :)

And to the individual who said my husband should be kept away from children and used words like “child abuse” in their reply, surely you can see how your ridiculous comments could be misconstrued. Your mind must go to dark places. I didn’t see anyone else react like that and even if there were some of you sharing the opinion of this person, thank you for advising me in a non nasty way :)

I’m glad I did the right thing, I did sort of think I might be overreacting but that’s why it’s good to get opinions.

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 22:14

@SootspriteSearcher Thank you, 100% agree. The degradation of women, I slapped DH (on his back lol) and said god forbid he sees the Ramsay scenes you twat!

Thanks for pointing this out, I was reading your post while on the phone and mentioned to her do NOT let him see the rest by any means, laptop, tablet, whatever. She monitors him pretty well on there, so fingers crossed it's all sorted. Kids are too clever these days

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IncognitoMam · 12/09/2023 23:06

Ds1 read the books at a similar age then got the dvds. I was clueless. He said I'd love it. I said nah I don't fancy watching something with dragons etc.
DH and I watched it and I'll be honest I was in shock. This was years ago so no one I knew had watched it. Ds1 always read lots, still does as an adult. But eee honestly I was mortified. I even said to him it's pornagraphic! He said Mam it's just part of the story. 🙈

DH and I did end up hooked. Very disappointing end.

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Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 23:13

@IncognitoMam I shouldn't laugh but I can just imagine the shock horror on your face when you realised, he's seen this??? Lol

Very graphic, and yes disappointing end. I personally wanted to see Petyr Baelish on the Iron Throne 😋

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JaukiVexnoydi · 12/09/2023 23:18

!!!!
I wouldn't let my 14yo watch GoT. Might consider at 17 but showing that stuff to a 13yo shows serious lack of understanding of safeguarding. Children's developing minds can be warped by exposure to adult content that they aren't ready for. Really poor judgement that would make me reconsider the relationship.

Gothambutnotahamster · 12/09/2023 23:56

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/09/2023 21:07

Jesus wept. No, GoT is totally unsuitable for a 13yo. Any adult who's seen it and doesn't realise it's unsuitable for a 13yo has issues imo.

Absolutely this!

MsGrumpytrousers · 13/09/2023 09:02

I'd b more worried by "he just seemed to find it amusing and said we were being silly". So even after he's had it explained to him, he can't take your concerns seriously? That's a bad sign.

If you're thinking of having children with him, I'd have some serious conversations about parenting first.

IncognitoMam · 13/09/2023 15:26

Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 23:13

@IncognitoMam I shouldn't laugh but I can just imagine the shock horror on your face when you realised, he's seen this??? Lol

Very graphic, and yes disappointing end. I personally wanted to see Petyr Baelish on the Iron Throne 😋

I can laugh now. But at the time I felt mortified. It was pure ignorance on my part. He's always been an old soul and is 26 now but even so 😳

Alargeoneplease89 · 13/09/2023 15:35

I definitely wouldn't be showing other people's kids because it's not your call but if it's my child then you know them and let's face it teens have access to the Internet. I watched horror films from 10 lots of sex / violence and I grew up to be a well rounded person. Come to think of it, I watched some porn around that age because it was on vhs and someone had taped Annie over porn, so when it ended- I got a surprise 😮

My teen watches southpark (as I did at that age) and he's a lovely kid with good grades / volunteers for charity etc. He watched the first episode and said its not for him.

So yeah people need to calm down, he's not going to turn into Joffery.

FictionalCharacter · 13/09/2023 15:38

Pandasandflowers · 12/09/2023 21:11

Also I should add that he brushed it off by saying he's now a teenager and boys have seen/know "stuff" at that age. Eh I just don't think it's old enough

A 13 yo boy has probably been shown porn by friends, but it would clearly be very wrong for his uncle to show it to him.
I’d be furious if my brother had shown my child GoT at that age.

beAsensible1 · 13/09/2023 15:41

no. it is full of sexual assault and rape. let alone all the violence and beheading.

Catkat · 13/09/2023 15:45

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