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OMG. Who saw tonights emmerdale?

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 20:34

I just watched it on sky plus and i cryed and cryed and cryed. Emilys baby died of cot death. It was so well acted and it made me think about if i lost my ds. Just even thinking about that makes my heart hurt so so much.

To any of you out there that has been through that i feel for you so much x

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theboob · 21/02/2008 21:14

oh no ,you weren't to know and like you say seems a mn topic was very well acted

CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 21/02/2008 21:16

It is amazing how a programme can provoke thought and bring a family together. I normally get DS into bed, one story then say goodnight - couldn't tear myself away tonight and would have got in bed with him if there was room!

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 21:18

hey i didnt mean to rile any body, all i was saying was how much pain i feel for parents who had been through it in real life..

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theboob · 21/02/2008 21:19

who do you mean?

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 21:20

poor 2specailgirls said she put thread on earlier and was told she shouldnt... why?

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 21:27

anyway, ledodgy, did you feel like me with your first? I only have 1 ds and ttc at the mo.. Does it REALLY change second time round??

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 21/02/2008 21:29

Can't answer that question, maybe some people think it is just being done as a ratings winner?

cazboldy · 21/02/2008 21:31

terrible though it is , to go along with that theory, should we not post about bfp/birth threads because some people can't conceive?

Ledodgy · 21/02/2008 21:34

It is less intense second time round but i'm actually more paranoid about my second as he has ended up in hospital twice once with Broncilitis and the next with an asthmatic reaction to a virus even though he's not asthmatic so whenever he gets a cold i'm forever looking at his chest to make sure he isn't rapid breathing! My 3 rd child ds2 is only 7 weeks old and I check he's breathing frequently like I did with the others! You do become more chilled out though.

My problem is i'm not one of those people that can happily go through life thinking it won't happen to me as bad things have happened to me several times namely losing my both parents by the age of 22 and I think this makes a difference to my outlook. That said i'm much more relaxed with my third I remember my first day alone with dd who was my first and I left her lying in the play gym whilst I had the quickest shower in the world convinced something bad would happen to her of course she was exactly where I left her when I returned!

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 21:34

im confused now.. what do you mean???

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mad4mybaby · 21/02/2008 21:34

ledodgy that last one was not to you... to post b4

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ladette · 21/02/2008 21:35

There have been several story lines in soaps/dramas about cot death over the years. I know any story line involving death is hard for anyone going through anything similar, but I'm really not sure whether cot death storylines are necessary. Hardest for anyone watching who has lost a baby, but also for the thousands of new parents who are probably paranoid anyway. Anyone agree? I find it more acceptable when dealt with in one episode, with the purpose of educating on current advice re prevention. But to drag out over several episodes, or when not used to educate, makes me feel sick and my baby days are way behind me.

Ledodgy · 21/02/2008 21:37

I think it would be a good idea to show a SID that wasn't actually in a cot. I used to work with a girl who lay on a mattress on the floor and put her baby to sleep every night on the couch thinking that would stop cot death. It's common misconceptions like this that need to be addresses.

Ledodgy · 21/02/2008 21:37

*addressed

ladette · 21/02/2008 21:44

Ledodgy, I agree with you, that sort of message is informative and can help prevent SID. I'd still rather that sort of thing was covered in one episode rather than spread out.

shabster · 21/02/2008 21:53

I watched Emmerdale tonight from behind the sofa!

I lost a 7 month old DTS in 1982 (heart problems) and a 7 yr old DS in 1992 (RTA)

I had to watch Emmerdale to see how they would portray it all. I have to say that although I cried buckets throughout most of it, I thought it was handled very well and the acting of the mother and father was magnificent. Any drama that stays true to life and is thought provoking cant be wrong.

For me, personally, the only part that wasnt true to my life was the police interview. DH and myself were interviewed for hours after baby died - I kept asking them to contact the local childrens hospital but they insisted on interviewing us over and over again. Only when my DTwinsons medical records were faxed to the hospital did they just pack up their stuff and leave. I know 'only doing their job.'

Any mums tonight - try not to worry too much about the programme - just extra hugs and kisses to all your darling children. It does make you stop and think when you see something like this.

Sorry to have rambled I was hoping someone would put this thread on mumsnet xxxx

ladette · 21/02/2008 21:55

What a brave post Shabster. So sorry for what you've been through.

Ledodgy · 21/02/2008 21:56

Thank you Shabster. You have been through so much and seem so strong. I'm so, so sorry you've lost two of your children life can be so very cruel sometimes.

shabster · 21/02/2008 21:59

Thank you very much for your really kind thoughts. I am much stronger now than I was - life was a complete nightmare for many years. I am lucky I have a 26 yr old son and a 10 yr old (my shock baby!!) son and they are my reason for carrying on.

Also expecting our first grandchild (Another little boy) in June so life is good.

When I watched tonights episode it made me realise how far we have come and I am really proud of all my family.

Thanks again ladies - much appreciated

thritbies · 22/02/2008 00:08

I purposely didn't watch it. There was a time, just after my ds1 was stillborn, when I would almost make myself watch things that portayed the loss of a baby, as I felt it couldnt be as upsetting as what had happened- also was grateful for it being showed so that people would be aware how it affects you FOREVER

Didn't really feel strong enough to watch it. I just read The Lovely Bones a few days ago and am still getting over that!

shabster · 22/02/2008 08:54

thritbies - so sorry for your loss.

You are so right when you say it affects you forever. Sometimes it feels like yesterday dosen't it? All your hopes and dreams for the future seem to disappear.

I am a long way down the line now and circumstances have improved for my family but the memories of my 2 sons jump in and out of my mind millions of times a day.

Emmerdale did a good job last night of portraying the total misery - I think it will be interesting to see how the scriptwriters handle the story from now.

My thoughts are with you

theboob · 22/02/2008 09:36

you are both amazing in my eyes ,so sorry for both of you
i dont know how you cope

shabster · 22/02/2008 13:25

theboob - Thank you for your kind words. Im not sure either!!!! I just know when my boys died I realised there are too choices

Sink or swim - and, so far, my head is just above the water and Im going nowhere.

Thanks again

MrsFish · 22/02/2008 18:56

I watched this last night whilst cooking dinner, my dh came to find out what was taking so long to find me in the middle of the kitchen in a complete mess. I haven't cried so much since my dad died 3 years ago. I have a 4mth old ds and all I could think of was how awful it would be if this happened to us. It was so amazingly acted aswell. I couldn't eat my dinner after that I was too upset, then I watched This morning today and they were going on about it and it set me off all over again

lottiejenkins · 22/02/2008 19:24

I lost my ds when he was two hours old, then nearly lost my second son when he was two weeks old, i found the episode very moving to watch I am crying as i type this because i am watching Laurel and Ashley telling Gabby that Daniel died, I found it hard like Laurel because a lot of my friends(and my sister) had babies the same time as my first ds died.

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