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The ultimatum- queer love

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Fatmamslim · 26/05/2023 14:42

Fucking hellll

Stuck in bed with flu and stumbled across this trash. I love it

Vanessa is shady AF, clear narc. Xander is a product of her abuse. She can't see how poorly she's been treated. Lexi she's her and she's calling her for it 👏

Mal, I'm not sure.

Aussie is baffling me but I suspect she's a lazy lovebomber.

Tiff is a moody child and I suspect she's verbally abusive and been stringing Mildred along for years, I'm glad she's strong enough to say its too late.

OP posts:
Neig · 07/06/2023 19:42

I loves Vanessa, she is so funny and deep. It s a pity that many of the girls were so jaleous about her. Everyone was so short minded about her, they totally misanderstood who she is, except for Xander. Also lexi was so possessive and the queen of jaleousy, i dont know how a great girl like Rae would stay with her. I think it s only a matter of months before Rae will need to break up, maybe on wedding day ^^ she is suffocated, it was so sad to see that Rae didnt dare to watch at Vanessa on final episod because she is so fucking scared by lexi. She can never say one word because controlfreak lexi will never shut up. I think lexi need to be more mature and real. Make differences between her ego and reality insteed of blaming other. Also Rae asked Vanessa for sex, Vanessa didnt initiate it and yet she is taking all the blame. Vanessa has clearly being mistreated because of her being so lively and natural. She just has a sarcastic humor than none of the other one is clever enough to understand. I wished that at least the people who watched the serie coule see it. I wish i were more living the present like she is, and i found it so sad that at the final episod she said that she would make less jokes. They manage to break the sunshine she was. I think the character i hate the most was yoly the lyer. Mildred quite imbalanced, Tiff a bit too. I think Mildred mean well but she is too obsess with herself to see through. The one i felt for was Sam, she is the greatest ❤️ i do like Aussie too, i hope she will feel better and that both will be happy together forever.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 19:47

@Neig

Did you see the brief update at the end of the reunion?

wildthingsinthenight · 07/06/2023 20:04

The reunion was great!!

MyEyesAreBleeding · 07/06/2023 20:12

Oh shit new episodes today!!! Off to watch

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 20:55

I really want to post my take but I don't want to spoil anything for anyone.

wildthingsinthenight · 07/06/2023 21:03

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 20:55

I really want to post my take but I don't want to spoil anything for anyone.

Same!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 21:10

I'll wait til midnight!

Neig · 07/06/2023 21:15

Halli Hallo,
Jaaa ich habe nach mein post gesehen. Ich war sehr froh wenn ich die letzte satz of dem computer gesehen habe :-D !! (ich habe gesehen dass dein pseudo auf deutsch ist und deshalb antworte ich auf deutsch um kein spoil zu machen) (Deutsch und englisch, wie du wahrscheinlich siehst sind nicht meine muttersprache ^^).

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 21:52

Ja, eine reise durch die zeit! Es stammt aus der fantastischen deutschen Fernsehserie Dark, die vielleicht die beste Fernsehserie aller Zeiten ist. Ich habe Deutsch in der Schule gelernt, aber vor über 20 Jahren, deshalb freue ich mich, wenn ich einfache Wörter wie „Krankenhaus, jeder muss sich Dark ansehen, es lohnt sich“ wiedererkenne

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 21:53

Apologies for the German interlude Neig asked me and I was explaining my username

Fatmamslim · 07/06/2023 21:58

Arghhh I snapped a few moments to catch up and got to a pinnacle moment (mal and yoly) and had to stop! Can't wait for tomorrow, bloody school runs! Haha.

I really like mal. She's handling this like a champ. Yoly is 10000% head over heels for xander tho

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EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 07/06/2023 22:03

@Fatmamslim

Are you OK with discussion of the ending on this thread even though you aren't done? No worries if so

chortler · 07/06/2023 22:20

I've just got 3 words...sex board games 🤣

ANewNameForSummer · 08/06/2023 00:05

I've just watched it & itching to discuss it now!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 08/06/2023 00:22

Well I did post a warning that I was going to post my take at midnight so....

Tiff and Mildred

The drama made the reunion. BUT (and this is my serious view ) Tiff and Mildred should NEVER have been on the show. Like the majority of the proposals on this edition they were solely for the cameras.

When you've been with someone three years and you cannot or will not accept their disabled child you should have had the good grace and dignity to bow out LONG ago instead of treating the poor boy like some sort of rival. Disgrace.

Mal and Yoly

Mal only proposed for the camera Yoly is grasping I was horrified by her conversation about Xanders finances

Xander

Yay for Xander for extricating herself from an EA relationship and having standards. Vanessa being the only one without a proposal was mad justice. I actually think that this might be a similar situation to Deeps and Shake on Love Is Blind were various people involved in the production took Deeps aside to warn her about Shakes behaviour but it wasn't shown. Xander is the true winner here

Sam and Aussie

Still in the same paralysed dysfunction don't know why Sam stayed - a year later and Aussie still in the closet with her family though how they don't know Aussie is gay is beyond me even with cultural considerations

Rae and Lexi

Oh blah blah blah our life is soooo amazing even though just like every other fucker on here we still aren't actually married.

THEN

Shortly after the Reunion....SHOCK SPLIT

Is that because Mal is single or because Vanessa is single ?! Inquiring minds want to know 🤔

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 08/06/2023 09:04

In the end I liked Vanessa.
Yoli is a liar. I also felt.Xander was a player. She spent the night telling Yoli they should.get together and then sleeps with Vanessa later that night.
Mal.is awesome..
Rae sweet.
Lexie is a lot.
Mildred and Tiff.toxic.
Sam lovely..
Aussie a toddler.

chortler · 08/06/2023 10:04

I felt a bit sorry for Vanessa in the end! She's super annoying and cheesy but she seemed genuinely upset and took the break up pretty well really.

Yoli is awful and her support for psycho domestic abuser Mildred is telling.

Sam is so lovely, Aussie seems so damaged I hope Sam isn't just falling into old habits of being her doormat.

I loved that even during Tiff's proposal to Mildred, Mildred went all pass agg by saying "can I speak now?"

wildthingsinthenight · 08/06/2023 13:28

Mildred was awful and her relationship with Tiff was so toxic. No wonder Tiff couldn't commit but I agree about not accepting Mildred's son.

I was so glad Xander escaped it all. She deserves some love and affection

Vanessa I still didn't warm to even at the end. She came on the show not thinking X might actually like anyone else so she fxxxxd things up for herself. She was horrible at the first dinner mouthing fuck off across the table. I don't think she changed. Manipulative IMO. Even her dad seemed to sympathise with Xander!

Love Mal. Dignified and extremely mature in her approach. But her hurt showed in her eyes. She was so disappointed on the reunion show.

Yoly...ugh I had really liked her but what a turnaround! Liar is right.

I knew Lexi and Rae wouldn't last. It didn't seem genuine or based on anything real. All for show.
Was sad that Sam accepted Aussie's. I really didnt hink she would. She seemed much stronger at the end.
Aussie..hmm... lots of problems there and not even out to her family. Must make Sam feel quite disrespected. When she was ironing her shirt I wondered if she knew how! Sam seems to do everything for her. I didn't like her in the end. Anything she didn't agree with she was on her toes

I enjoyed it! So much better than the straight one which was a real let down

wildthingsinthenight · 08/06/2023 13:30

Oh and I agree Mal was proposing for the camera and didn't really want to

ANewNameForSummer · 08/06/2023 13:30

Oh, I feel differently to the opinions on here so far so!
I could not stand Vanessa throughout the entire thing, nor in the reunion. She came into the whole thing thinking she was the catch and Xander was lucky to have her. I think she treated Xander very shabbily in all likelihood and it never crossed her mind that Xander would be in demand or be the one to pull away.

I think when Xander had the opportunity to have some distance from Vanessa, plus spend time with someone who liked her it allowed her to see how awful Vanessa was as a person.

Vanessa 100% would have had a fling with Lexi until that fell apart and in her mind that would have bee just fine.

She got a shock when she realised Xander had fallen for Yoly but I think it was too little too late and it was mostly acting on her behalf - crocodile tears,

I feel Xander did fall for Yoly and would have pursued that except she got played.

Yoly, what a mess. She is attention hungry. I couldn't really see the connection between her and Mal. They didn't seem like a well suited couple so I'm not sure why Yoly chose her except maybe 'doing the expected / right thing'? The proposal was so dead - no sense of joy or excitement etc so I wasn't a bit surprised they'd split by the reunion.

Rae was sweet but so indecisive and a little bit dim I felt. She was no match for Lexi who would walk all over her! Lexi has the potential to domineer and be a bit of a bully in relationships - her way or the high way etc. Plus having agreed to participate in the experiment and all that it might entail her immaturity around Rae and Vanessa's 'encounter' was a tell tale sign that she's not as together as she likes to portray. She wanted total control over every aspect of the relationship down to her father making the rings and her mother planning the wedding - suffocating - there's no way I could live like that!

Tiff & Mildred, what a disaster. They should never have been in a relationship in the first place. I couldn't stand Mildred. She set my teeth on edge. Tiff was emotionally ill-equipped to handle her and her frustrations boiled over again and again. They are 100% better off without each other.

I think Tiff and Sam might have made a nice couple.

Sam and Aussie - Sam is a 'fixer' and loves to think people need her and that she is the only one who can understand or help them. She seems to be addicted to that role, going back again and again to Aussie. She is a very calm and sweet person and I was glad that was finding ways to speak up and draw some boundaries.

Aussie is super damaged and really urgently needs professional help to allow her to process the trauma from her upbringing and I felt the biggest fear she has is being seen as a failure as a person by her family because she is gay and that is unacceptable in her family dynamic. She has to address this before she can move on and get married etc. I can't see Sam lasting the distance there.

wildthingsinthenight · 08/06/2023 13:32

ANewNameForSummer · 08/06/2023 13:30

Oh, I feel differently to the opinions on here so far so!
I could not stand Vanessa throughout the entire thing, nor in the reunion. She came into the whole thing thinking she was the catch and Xander was lucky to have her. I think she treated Xander very shabbily in all likelihood and it never crossed her mind that Xander would be in demand or be the one to pull away.

I think when Xander had the opportunity to have some distance from Vanessa, plus spend time with someone who liked her it allowed her to see how awful Vanessa was as a person.

Vanessa 100% would have had a fling with Lexi until that fell apart and in her mind that would have bee just fine.

She got a shock when she realised Xander had fallen for Yoly but I think it was too little too late and it was mostly acting on her behalf - crocodile tears,

I feel Xander did fall for Yoly and would have pursued that except she got played.

Yoly, what a mess. She is attention hungry. I couldn't really see the connection between her and Mal. They didn't seem like a well suited couple so I'm not sure why Yoly chose her except maybe 'doing the expected / right thing'? The proposal was so dead - no sense of joy or excitement etc so I wasn't a bit surprised they'd split by the reunion.

Rae was sweet but so indecisive and a little bit dim I felt. She was no match for Lexi who would walk all over her! Lexi has the potential to domineer and be a bit of a bully in relationships - her way or the high way etc. Plus having agreed to participate in the experiment and all that it might entail her immaturity around Rae and Vanessa's 'encounter' was a tell tale sign that she's not as together as she likes to portray. She wanted total control over every aspect of the relationship down to her father making the rings and her mother planning the wedding - suffocating - there's no way I could live like that!

Tiff & Mildred, what a disaster. They should never have been in a relationship in the first place. I couldn't stand Mildred. She set my teeth on edge. Tiff was emotionally ill-equipped to handle her and her frustrations boiled over again and again. They are 100% better off without each other.

I think Tiff and Sam might have made a nice couple.

Sam and Aussie - Sam is a 'fixer' and loves to think people need her and that she is the only one who can understand or help them. She seems to be addicted to that role, going back again and again to Aussie. She is a very calm and sweet person and I was glad that was finding ways to speak up and draw some boundaries.

Aussie is super damaged and really urgently needs professional help to allow her to process the trauma from her upbringing and I felt the biggest fear she has is being seen as a failure as a person by her family because she is gay and that is unacceptable in her family dynamic. She has to address this before she can move on and get married etc. I can't see Sam lasting the distance there.

Totally agree with you about Vanessa!

DumDeeDoh · 08/06/2023 17:33

The love show was great. I think Tiff was full of shit walking off. She was so abusive to her pretent bride about her dog and having to accept it fully in her life (she knew the person 3 days at that stage) but couldnt accept the SON of her partner. It is disrespectful to invite people over for sex while living with your ex.

Glad Rae got away from Lexi.

Yoly is awful. Glad Mal left her. She should never have proposed anyway. She knew yoly was half way out of the relationship .

RaspberryCloud · 08/06/2023 18:01

DumDeeDoh · 08/06/2023 17:33

The love show was great. I think Tiff was full of shit walking off. She was so abusive to her pretent bride about her dog and having to accept it fully in her life (she knew the person 3 days at that stage) but couldnt accept the SON of her partner. It is disrespectful to invite people over for sex while living with your ex.

Glad Rae got away from Lexi.

Yoly is awful. Glad Mal left her. She should never have proposed anyway. She knew yoly was half way out of the relationship .

I've seen this twice now about Lexi & Rae breaking up - how did I miss this?! Where did you see it?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 08/06/2023 18:23

I've seen this twice now about Lexi & Rae breaking up - how did I miss this?! Where did you see it?

It comes up as text on a screen right before the credits

Snugglemonkey · 09/06/2023 23:20

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 08/06/2023 09:04

In the end I liked Vanessa.
Yoli is a liar. I also felt.Xander was a player. She spent the night telling Yoli they should.get together and then sleeps with Vanessa later that night.
Mal.is awesome..
Rae sweet.
Lexie is a lot.
Mildred and Tiff.toxic.
Sam lovely..
Aussie a toddler.

But Xander was the only one to call it on ultimatum day. I do not think she is a player at all. She was confused, she worked it out. She made a great choice to leave Vanessa.