I'm going to be honest. I think people want a diagnosis of ADHD for themselves or their child because it takes away any responsibility for their own behaviour/ parenting.
I have been told multiple times by passing NON PROFESSIONALS that they think I have ADHD traits. Mainly because I'm forgetful, perpetually late, easily distracted and once I focus on something, I can't stop doing that task. However they're not seeing the whole picture, that I have insomnia, that none of these traits were there in childhood, that I have a phone addiction, that I have anxiety, that I have some trauma, that I'm a stressed out lone mum of two kids....
So what would be easier? Looking at how I can improve my sleep hygiene, trying to develop coping strategies for my busy life, trying to do things in advance (which I really really struggle with as I think part of me has gotten used to the thrill of throwing everything together at the last minute and the endorphins which come with it), seeing a therapist, slowing down, limiting phone use, trying to be more mindful and less reactive? Or getting a private adhd assessment and absolving myself of all responsibility? Sorry I'm constantly late and disorganised I have ADHD!
As someone with a child who is waiting for assessment, with no hope of us ever having the money to go private, I can sympathise. However, if you have lived 38 years as someone who suffers with the sort of chaotic, disorganised, going from crisis to crisis, or even, if you're like most of the middle aged mums I meet who are sure they have ADHD, very busy and don't understand why they can't be a fully present parent, career woman, fantastic wife, have a show home and look after elderly parents without forgetting the odd birthday, what is three years?!! Why do you have to be diagnosed tomorrow?
I don't believe the increase is due to masses of women being missed in the 80's and 90's, although I'm sure that a lot were, but a symptom of a modern age where we have too much information and stress and expectation. I feel there must be some hormonal response to our lives which triggers these ADHD traits to become apparent.
For those defending the private clinics, how can you possibly say that you can assess someone in the short assessment, relying mostly on self reported questionnaires? Unfortunately this trend will have a massive impact on the NHS, as most stay on both lists, they do not go private and then take themselves off the NHS waiting list. So others who are not privileged enough to afford an assessment still have to wait. Plus with adhd meds costing the NHS £70 a box, unnecessary diagnosis will create more