@jezzyj
Liberty was 100% taking his comments to heart, like being messy isn't the end of the world. Yes it's annoying for your partner, however. Also, being messy is
not a personality trait, it's a habit that can and should be changed
However
Jakes reaction to the break up... whew, I felt that. He really doesn't care. He didn't even bother to explain his comments or try and stop her. He just went along with it (WTF?)
Feel bad for her, because he was clearly not that invested if that's how he reacts to his guurrllfrend breaking up!
Erm, he didn't just comment on her messiness.
He said, "you're so messy, you're proper giving me the ick you are".
Do you really think that's something you tell someone you 'love; a few weeks into a new relationship? That is NOT banter. That is on the emotional abuse section of Womens Aid - constant put downs, and in public too.
And no, no one needs to change. If she's messy, it's her life. They don't live together, they've known each other a few weeks. If being messy is enough to give him the ick, they are NOT compatible. No one has the right to demand you change your way of living to suit them.