Been lurking a while, but this talk about exclusivity interested me. I'm a boring old married woman now, but ten years ago when I was "seeing people" (aka going on dates and sleeping with them) we had the chat about not seeing other people, although we didn't label it "exclusive" it was the same thing. In my experience it was basically like being bf/gf but without the security of knowing the person has committed to you and is there for emotional support when you need them. There is more game play involved, like "I text him first last time and I don't want to seem to keen/like I'm trying to be his gf so I'll wait for him to text me next..." . Whereas when I know I'm someone's gf I'm not paranoid about things like that because you know you should be able to text your bf without second guessing it! Alot of the time it seems "exclusive" just means you want some of the benefits of having a gf/bf but without the commitment and expectations that this might entail, also known as "I'm not looking for anything serious but I won't shag around" 😂🙄