DNA family secrets

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Anyone watching? Them 2 defo look like brothers!

I think she’s almost trained herself to speak like that! I have a friend from Luton, where SD is from, and she sounds nothing like SD. Either way, it’s awful.

I don't understand the dislike of Stacey on here. I've never seen her on anything before. I'm not in the UK and don't find her accent / voice grating at all.

I thought the episode last night was more balanced. Yes it was sad for the triplets that their birth father's family didn't want to know but there are SO many reasons why that might be the case and it's probably a more common scenario than being welcomed with open arms, no questions asked.

Also the can of worms which is sperm donation - I don't think it was made clear enough that these men (and women who donated eggs) did so on the proviso that they would NEVER be contacted. And then DNA testing comes along and blows all that out of the water. Although the woman on the show did say she had no interest in finding the donor just siblings, it's still a massive ethical minefield.

I did watch the ITV version the other night and it was also dreadful, lightweight, no substance, flitting from one thing to the other... just really second rate.

BBC have this nailed down with Who Do You Think You Are which is usually excellent. The DNA one needs to ditch Stacey and be more scientific, leave the tear jerking stories to ITV and Davina if you like that sort of thing.

The daughter of the sperm donor had about 18 half-siblings. It would be interesting (to me!) to know how geographically close they are to each other. I wonder about the risks of half-siblings meeting and having a child without knowing. Having said that, he was as student from NI, living in Leeds and she was living in Wales so pretty spread out.

Agree, Who Do You is excellent. I liked the ITV offering simply because it wasn't the mawkish, sentimental, programme I expected it to be.

@SwedishEdith
I wondered that too re sperm donor half siblings falling in love and having children.

The way the two brothers were handled episode one was shockingly unethical and manipulative.

We enjoyed it, although the one with the beardy brothers was badly handled, I thought. The recent one with the triplets was heartwarming, but mostly because they had such a happy adoption with lovely parents.

Maybe be liked it because we have our own family history mystery at the moment. It looks like my husband's great grandfather (married with 9 children) fled to London in 1891 with his pregnant other woman and she had the child there. They then moved to Dudley where the poor woman had another children with him, then both her and the second child died shortly after the birth. This man then got back together with his wife and they seem to have raised the first child as their own.

Unfortunately I don't think this child has any living descendants because we would love to find out if anyone has the full story.

Why did the dad of the donor sperm girl tell her when she was 17 and 6 months pregnant? Seems an odd time!

I think Stacey Dooley has good people skills and says the right things. There was a series where she stayed with a landed gentry family for the weekend. They started off a bit taken aback by her accent but then really bonded with her and liked her. She gets people to open up to her.

I wasn't sure if the dad told her he wasn't her dad because when you are pregnant the midwife asks you about family medical history at booking in.

Can someone explain why contact was made between the bearded "brothers." Why did one think the other was his brother?

One of their dads wrote to the other to say he thought he was his dad. The one who got the letter got a DNA test with who he thought was his full sister and she was half so he pursued it

Thanks.

How difficult it must have been for the triplets's birth Mum, a single Mum with 3 babies to care for and dying when they were 2.
I think the boys were 4 when they were adopted into a loving home.
How sad none of their birth mother's family were able to care for them.

Their mum would have been 35 or so when she died. That's young to die especially of pneumonia i wonder if she didnt seek help because she was so overwhelmed

I understood the children weren't with her by then.
I think they may have been fostered by then and then adopted.
And the little sh*its who bullied them in primary school should hang their heads in shame.