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Britain's best parent

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BizarreBizarre · 28/05/2020 20:40

Anyone watching? Basically 3 different styles of parenting being shown from 3 familys

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ppeatfruit · 23/06/2020 08:36

Exactly Pickwick. I don't envy the vegan parents when their children reach teenage rebellion stage! How are they going to stop them going to Mcdo's ?? To control children as strictly as that .seems to backfire IME and O.

Belle Homeschooling can\should be relaxed, I've done it, you don't try to 'teach' them consciously all the time, If you think about it many children can read and write before they get to school, you give them the tools and the inspiration to discover it for themselves.

Ickabog · 25/06/2020 19:58

Anyone watching tonights final?

Ickabog · 25/06/2020 20:01

Looking after the children overnight will be interesting, especially for the back to basic parents, I wonder where they will sleep.

Ickabog · 25/06/2020 20:27

I disagree that the smacking / I love you was taken out of context and twisted. I think the homeschool mum was spot on with her gaslighting comment.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 25/06/2020 20:39

I think the homeschool mum was spot on with her gaslighting comment

Agreed.

Happybint · 25/06/2020 20:55

What was the gas lighting comment?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 25/06/2020 21:06

Fuck me I wasn't expecting that.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 26/06/2020 01:06

Well I think the homeschool mum was insulting and rude. How dare she say they don't love their children when they give them a smack.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/06/2020 04:59

How dare she say they don't love their children when they give them a smack

Did she actually say that? Mind, if dh hit me, I'd assume he didn't love me. So I can understand how that would translate to hitting your own child.

newphoneswhodis · 26/06/2020 09:07

I was so shocked. I thought back to basic parents would win. I really hated the homeschool parents. The way the dad spoke just grated and I thought the mum was rude.

firstimemamma · 26/06/2020 12:08

"I love my kids, but I love my wife more" - Britain's best parent? Completely depressing.

OohKittens · 26/06/2020 14:35

Fuck just watched the final bloody heck did not expect that at all it should have been a public vote. The back to nature parents definitely should have won.

newphoneswhodis · 26/06/2020 14:46

The only thing I thought was that flo seemed much younger than 6.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 26/06/2020 14:49

Agree that back to basics parents should have won.

And as a aside that Mum is so pretty!

ppeatfruit · 26/06/2020 15:11

Yes I wasn't keen on the winners, the dad was a bit too manic for me. I did like that the mum said that balance was necessary, no extremes. But the dad seemed keener on extreme sports! I like the children making sushi.

The Back to Basics parents never explained where they all slept\lived in the bad weather, have they got a treehouse? I did like their philosophy but maybe it was a bit extreme too. How do they educate their children about weirdos who like forests?

newphoneswhodis · 26/06/2020 15:22

I wonder if the holiday parks was something to do with those parents not having adequate space for the children to sleep.

TinySleepThief · 26/06/2020 16:03

Im assuming still that the back to basics parents rent as it said they sold their hone not that they had no home.

I honesty thought they should have won. The parents who won didnt actually have a parenting style Confused they just wantdd their children to do martial arts, (aka a physical after school activity) , eat dinner as a family and develop academically (so pretty much like every other parent in the country) Confused.

I also thought home school mum was spot on with her comments about smacking and cannot believe that out of all the parents in Britain one of the supposed top 4 still uses smacking as a punishment in 2020! How is that considered ok?

ppeatfruit · 26/06/2020 16:19

Yes Tiny . I felt that the mum was quite dominated by the dad too. He seemed like one of those parents who'd deliberately unfairly 'compete' with his small children and "win" .

I so agree about the strict parents. I noticed their eldest child said how much she enjoyed being with Foresters. The audience ignored that fact.

ppeatfruit · 26/06/2020 16:33

Parents who coldly discuss a punishment with a child (like they said about the child who lied) because it makes them "respected" by the child are not good parents IMO.

Instilling unquestioning obedience in children is dangerous, it can lead to abuse. Most parents were like that in the 50s. It makes the child unable to tell. That's how a lot of the sexual abusers got away with it for so long.

MashedPotatoBrainz · 26/06/2020 16:46

I found the strict dad very worrying. He said that if his daughter does wrong then he smacks her, then explains what she's done wrong so she doesn't do it again, and then shows her he still loves her. He's teaching his daughter the cycle of abuse. Push his buttons, get hit, get told why you made him do it, be all loving, walk on egg shells to avoid doing it again.

TinySleepThief · 26/06/2020 17:06

He's teaching his daughter the cycle of abuse. Push his buttons, get hit, get told why you made him do it, be all loving, walk on egg shells to avoid doing it again.

This is exactly why the home school mum was right to question them.

I would love to know if he would be happy for a future partner to hit his daughter and follow this abusive pattern or is it only not abuse if you're an adult and you're hitting a child Hmm

ppeatfruit · 26/06/2020 17:19

Yes, it's humiliates the child, and all it teaches children is not to get caught.

I remember an interview on the radio with the mum of a child who had knifed another one. She said "He's so good at home we have strict discipline", in other words, she hits him. It doesn't make good adults. The dad and mum said that it did , they must live in cloud cuckoo land.

GracieLane · 26/06/2020 20:04

The cognitive dissonance that lets people feel that smacking is good parenting is baffling really. How can you teach a child not to hit if you hit them? To sit on a TV show and refuse to talk about how it could translate in later life just shows the level of denial you have to sustain in order to continue using "tools" like this to discipline children. I don't think people smack out of malice (at least not most of the time), I think it stems from thinking that they should be in control of their children, a master/dog relationship, the Dad actually said they are "training them."

Not teaching them, encouraging them, inspiring them, motivating them, empowering them, equipping them with life skills and building them up into strong, resilient, healthy, happy people. Just training them.

I'm not training kids, I'm raising them. It's not about having parents above keeping them suppressed, it's about having a strong foundation on which to propel them to a magnificent future. I am the roots, I am home. They are the branches reaching upward towards a future beyond my perception.

The Eastern Inspired parents just seemed like pretty standard parents tbh, they dressed it up to seem like more than traditional family values combined with some extra curricular activity, home cookery, games and outdoor time. Like what most people try to achieve, then. I didn't warm to him at all.

AlexaShutUp · 26/06/2020 22:46

Absolutely amazed and depressed that the Eastern inspired parents won. I really couldn't bear the husband, banging on about hierarchy in the family and loving his wife more than he loved his children. He was so competitive, too. I felt quite sick every time he started talking to the camera. What they did with the kids was fine, but nothing out of the ordinary. They were so unbelievably smug!

I also felt that the home schooling mother made a really valid point about smacking, though it was hard for the strict mum to hear. Overall, I thought the strict parents seemed like genuinely nice people and loving parents, so I really hope that they might go home and rethink their approach to discipline. Their daughter also came across really well on the days out with the other families - really positive and respectful of the different approaches.

The other ones were both OK, and I expected one of them to win, but perhaps the vote was split between them. I liked the back to basics parents, but it felt a little bit one dimensional - I got their point about the importance of spending time in nature but there are other things in life as well, and I didn't really get a sense as to how they deal with those other aspects of life. Their little girl seemed really sweet. I still want to know where they actually live in winter!

The home schooling parents came across really well tonight too. I agreed with a lot of what they said, and probably would have voted for them. I just fundamentally disagree with them about their choice to home educateGrin!

purpleme12 · 27/06/2020 00:53

I'm sorry but I think it's wrong that he said he loves his wife more than his children and that she's his priority.
And then he backtracked