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Anyone watching this show about training kids like dogs?

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lastqueenofscotland · 20/08/2019 20:05

How strange...

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RandomMess · 20/08/2019 20:06

Yep, the DT has made a good point

Focus on what you want...

BlessedBeTheFruitCake · 20/08/2019 20:06

Yes, I'm watching.

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lastqueenofscotland · 20/08/2019 20:17

I also thought her point about them communicating with him like he was an adult was very valid

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RandomMess · 20/08/2019 20:20

It's very easy to see what is going on in hindsight, how easy it is to step into that cycle of battle of wills.

RandomMess · 20/08/2019 20:23

I genuinely think an awful lot of people in the UK have grown up in nuclear families and have so little hands on instinctive way of parenting. We have the theory but don't know how to action it from a child centric view.

SouthWestmom · 20/08/2019 20:41

Don't like the bath bit.

SlumMumBum · 20/08/2019 20:42

The clicker and the chocolate buttons!! Hmm

Sux2buthen · 20/08/2019 20:42

I'm sure there's parallels but if someone tried to use a clicker on my kids I'd be struggling not to give her a whac----I mean, have a word Grin

SouthWestmom · 20/08/2019 20:45

So next bath time when there are no buttons?

RandomMess · 20/08/2019 20:47

All she is doing is helping the child to overcome her fear of abandonment that she has associated with having a bath. Not like the little girl will need the clicker/chic button for long!

The staying in cot is pick up put down, with mine it didn't involve crying/screaming at all (because they were very young when I did everything I could for them to have positive association of being awake in their cot)

joystir59 · 20/08/2019 20:56

I definitely think communicating with young children is very similar to how I communicate with our Jack Russell- very clear simple instructions in a gentle firm voice. Judicious use of a firm 'No!'

dogsdinnerlady · 21/08/2019 11:46

Get them to wee and poo in the garden, walk to heal, sit before getting a treat, sleep in the kitchen and sent to kennels while you go on hols. Sounds like a great idea to me!

Deadringer · 21/08/2019 12:28

I thought it made sense, but when you really look at it there was nothing really new or controversial in her methods. (Clicker aside). Positive reinforcement, listening to the child and responding to their needs, noticing when the child is behaving well. I did think the sleep one was particularly interesting, but again surely it's instinct to pick up a baby before they get to the hysterical stage? I wonder about the couple with the 3 year old too, would it not have occurred to them that a 3 year old will want to play with all the cool stuff they had on full view but out of reach? I agree with a pp, people probably don't use their natural instincts enough anymore. It was certainly interesting.

ppeatfruit · 21/08/2019 13:04

We LOVED this programme, it's amazing how many people think it's ok to leave their babies crying and crying. They don't use their instincts because possibly their own parents didn't and they listen to them.

The 3 yr old was so sweet when he was properly listened to.

I loved the way the parents realised that they weren't doing it right and were happy to change.

There was a doctor in the 20s and 30s who said that babies MUST be only fed every 4 hours and not picked up in between however much they cried.

This programme should be required viewing for all new parents.

ppeatfruit · 21/08/2019 13:08

Though the trainer lady didn't mention that ,like puppies, small highly energetic children need to be exercised TWICE a day!! Grin maybe she'll mention it next week Grin

RebootYourEngine · 21/08/2019 16:45

Forgetting about the programme title and looking at the content of the programme it was a good show.

Positive reinforcement is so much better than always being negative.

IAmBannedAgainTheBastards · 21/08/2019 17:36

I thought it was really good

PerspicaciaTick · 21/08/2019 17:55

It is a bit misleading as her techniques are pure positive parenting techniques which have been around for decades. The only "dog" bit was the clicker which only seemed to be used for filming and not actually part of the ongoing tools used by the parents.
But yes, I liked her child centred approach to putting yourself in the child's shoes to understand better the causes of the behaviour.

RandomMess · 21/08/2019 18:12

But training a dog is very similar to parenting pre-schoolers!

Lots of people don't know how to "parent" their dogs either...

swimlyn · 21/08/2019 23:34

The trainer seemed convinced that because of her vast experience she instinctively knew what the animals children needed, but in reality, by the end of the programme, I just felt that she had trained the clueless parents to engage their brains with regard to child care.

The connection with dog training was not really there.

SouthWestmom · 22/08/2019 08:16

The hunting toys and then praising would be exhausting in real life. You'd get tops three minutes before having to praise him and then what? Think of more pointless stuff to find? At what point does it translate to playing alone.

thaegumathteth · 22/08/2019 08:21

The hunting toys thing - I can guarantee if I said ‘find everything that’s yellow’ my kids would remember a yellow barbie shoe they saw 6 months ago and empty every box in the room looking for it.

Notverygrownup · 22/08/2019 08:31

Loved it. Reminded me of a close friend who had a late baby after her others were in school. DS3 grew up with their two border collies as his main companions, and was very used to walking with them every day. When she threw sticks for the dogs in the field near their house, she used to have to have an extra (cleanish) stick to throw for him, and yes, he used to run and then put it in his mouth to bring it back every time!
He was very well exercised.

ppeatfruit · 22/08/2019 08:46

Positive reinforcement and the attachment theory have been around for many years but many parents haven't heard of them. This programme is reinforcing it for them!

Having a beautiful 'nursery' and all the toys in the world is not going to help a baby sleep if she feels abandoned.

DisorganisedOrganiser · 22/08/2019 08:49

What programme is this please?

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