Im certaintly not defending wes and I really don't see his behaviour as a way to justify alexs. I'm simply explaining why the feeling isn't the same. Wes was behaving badly, but arguably so was Laura, he handled it badly there is no doubt, but the impression it was more immaturity than blatant dishonesty from the start, that he went into it with the best of intentions, unlike Alex.
The point is two wrongs don't make a right and saying oh well it's ok for Alex to behave badly because wes behaved worse doesn't quite work for me or many others.
I think we get there are a handful of people on here who think alexs behaviour was fully acceptable, the reality though appears to be the wider weight of public opinion is heavily against him, this man has behaved with deceit and his sexuality is of course under question by the wider public.
When nearly everyone sees the same thing, then I'd personally be questioning myself on why I can watch a man behave with what the overwhelming majority of people see as deceit and then try to defend his behaviour and see it as acceptable to treat a woman like that.
Do you treat people like that? Have you been treated like that and been ok with it? Have you watched your female friends been treated like that and thought the man was behaving well? I'm guessing for anyone to justify it, then they must be answering yes to at least one of those questions.