I think that generally people who do this kind of programme are very naive, tbh. It's never going to come across well. Agree with you Frances5, the Ezzo's and the Pearl's ways are something else! I'm all for routine and obedience, but they are just controlling for the sake of control.
There's no balance.
Some friends of mine with 8 children and a keeper-at-home philosophy very nearly did wife-swap, but they decided against it because it doesn't matter how well-rounded they actually are, it's really difficult to escape from the editing process.
I do have an American friend who is doing a UK documentary about SAHM as a vocation, but I don't know when it's on, she only did the filming last month.