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** Trigger Warning** DV Thread title changed by MNHQ Anne Robinson's Britain - Parenting anyone?

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Hepzibar · 06/10/2016 21:07

See mumsnet got a mention.

Some of these are Shock

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Cj04550 · 07/10/2016 20:24

Unfortunately it doesn't work like that

BuffaloCustardbath · 07/10/2016 20:38

Interesting programme, I quite liked the way the lady with all the parenting books and the strict schedule dealt with the dispute between her kids, and I thought Annie's patience was exceptional- I'd have been a banshee before that multiplications lesson even started.

windygales · 07/10/2016 20:48

I'm sorry for the situation but it actually does work like that. Children are protected and they would have been separated. She has rights to see her children

steffyo · 07/10/2016 21:13

How can you think devoting your life to your children is selfish!! Anni makes me feel completely ashamed of some of my choices as a parent and wish I'd met Annie years ago!! We decided to have a child and then spent his early years trying to snatch time for ourselves and now those years have gone his 10 & autistic need I say more! What I wouldnt give to have bonded with him better and earlier. If you decide to have a child, then if you chose to devote your life to that child to ensure its start in life, how can that be selfish!!! Being a friend of Anni's I can assure you she is NOT selfish!!

Hepzibar · 07/10/2016 21:19

It looks to me like they were all doing the best they could for their children. Just like we all do, wanting the to be safe, happy and healthy.

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steffyo · 07/10/2016 21:27

And further more mainstream teachers struggle teaching in one way (national curriculum) try teaching in different styles and succeeding!!

MiscellaneousAssortment · 07/10/2016 21:32

Obviously I have no way of knowing what has gone on behind the scenes of that family.

However, I will say that, as wit wrote, 'it (the family court system) doesn't always work the way it should'

Parents can work the system, including just, not doing what the courts order, and it's hard to keep going to court to get the same thing ordered again, with little means of enforcing it. Even harder if you're beaten down from years of abuse yourself.

It's also difficult to provide evidence as abusiveness isn't seen as a transferable thing I.e abuse towards a wife isn't seen as evidence of a risk of abuse to a child, and abuse to one child isn't always seen as therefore extending to all children.

So, just because my stbxh knocked the hell out of me, doesn't mean a court would see him as a risk to his son.

Yet rather ironically, social services made it clear that if be considered complicit in child abuse if i 'allowed' him to hit me when DS was around. Irony being I triggered a SS report by reporting the abuse and asking for help.

When the system works, it's brilliant. But there are flaws.

Cj04550 · 07/10/2016 21:48

Ok

imwithspud · 07/10/2016 21:57

Watched this tonight and all of them had me Shock for different reasons. They were all kind of extreme but in different ways. I guess that was the purpose of the programme though and to be honest each 'type' of parent made me feel inadequate for different reasons.

Something about the single dad just didn't sit right with me, having read what I've read in this thread I've now had that feeling confirmed. My house is in no way a show home but that was something else. The kids were really sweet though, all of them featured on the show were.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 07/10/2016 23:34

I just watched this after reading the very beginning of this thread.

I really enjoyed it and thought Anne did a good job. Funny when she basically said she didn't do a good job of being a mother, her grown up DD seemed very nice at the beginning and they seemed close.

Seeing more background to the single dad does put a different spin on it. I felt really sorry for him when he said the food came from the food bank and fruit and veg was past its sell by date. Wouldn't researchers look more into the family histories before putting them on TV?

I found the swapping mums really interesting. I'd love to be as calm as the organised mum but it doesn't happen Blush. I wonder if any are MNetters!

ppeatfruit · 08/10/2016 11:27

Lilirose Iam very very sorry if my stupid opinions were annoying to you. It's good to get the truth about what is going on in the single dad's house. I wonder if Anne Robinson would have been so happy with it all if she had known the reality ? Hang on ,why didn't she ????

Cj04550 · 08/10/2016 13:10

We didn't know they were going on TV until a family member saw them advertised on it. Mum never consented to it

OurBlanche · 08/10/2016 13:17

ppeatfruit your opinions aren't stupid. And if an anonymous poster wishes to claim knowledge/relationship that is no reason to apologise for having had an opinion based on what you saw... what we all saw.

AndNowItsSeven · 08/10/2016 13:22

I don't think it's appropriate for posters to claim they are related to people on current tv programs. The single dad has no way to defend himself if he doesn't know about this thread.
There was a troll on a thread a while back , I think was " the secret life of four year olds",

Cj04550 · 08/10/2016 13:37

I'm not a troll

Cj04550 · 08/10/2016 13:40

I'm not related to Tommy because he was step dad but they are my siblings

ppeatfruit · 08/10/2016 13:54

Well thank you Blanche . But the same people can see a programme (or an accident etc.) and feel differently about it.

The editing is important too of course. I still wonder why the research was non existent. (if it was). Ann Robinson should have known the background before the filming began.

AndNowItsSeven · 08/10/2016 14:10

I didn't say you were a troll cj I said there had been a troll on a previous thread about a relation to a tv show participant.
I just don't feel it's appropriate to make accusations about an identifiable person on a public forum.

OurBlanche · 08/10/2016 14:14

But the same people can see a programme (or an accident etc.) and feel differently about it. Yup, which is why I responded to your apology!

The editing is important too of course. I still wonder why the research was non existent. (if it was). Ann Robinson should have known the background before the filming began. We have no evidence that this is the case. Just an anonymous poster claiming it is. She may be exactly who she says she is, she may not be! That still does not negate your original opinion, and certainly does not require you to apologise and call your opinions 'stupid'.

steppemum · 08/10/2016 14:31

I thought Anne Robinson did a great job of just showing each family as they are actually.

Annie the attachment parent really got my back up. I felt really sorry for her 12 year I am a supporter of home education but really, just give him/her a bit of time and space to concentrate and learn, how can you learn in that madhouse! And yes, the father didn't get a look in til they were 2!!!
I exclusively breastfed and it is not a ball and chain. I often and happily letf my kids with their Dad. Especially once you start we, if they are hungry you can give them food and they can have milk when Mum gets home.
And really, if attachment parenting means they can't learn the word No, as in no you can't draw on this whiteboard now, you can have it in a minute, then it is hardly a good ad for it is it?

steppemum · 08/10/2016 14:32

start weaning that should say

steppemum · 08/10/2016 14:34

I loved the two mums who swapped and had deep respect for their ability to be nice about each others methods and actually learn from them.

Really saddened by the comment from the London mum though

"how every many generations they are, they will always be seen as immigrants, and need to achieve more to get by"

ppeatfruit · 08/10/2016 16:08

The thing is Blanche I felt that I was being manipulated by the programme. Not something I like admitting to. AR's opinions about the single dad family were positive. She did admit her own parenting left a lot to be desired and his did also.

Though so did the ultra religious parents', single dad didn't get such a critical conclusion . The programme was weird IMO.

OurBlanche · 08/10/2016 16:16

The thing is Blanche I felt that I was being manipulated by the programme and may have been manipulated by an anonymous poster!

I am not saying you shouldn't ever re-think your opinions, just not give yourself a hard time for having held them!

Live a little, learn a little....

... and she was critical about him... the shots of the house, her raised eyebrows and the disbelieving tone of 'maybe he is just not sweating the small stuff'... there was nothing more overtly critical about any of them. She just played them all against her own parenting!

They were all, as you would expect from such a programme, odd!

If you don't like seeing people through the eyes of a film crew and editor don't watch telly! But as you do/did, be less harsh on yourself! You had a thought and have been given cause to doubt it. That's human, not awful, not stupid.... it is normal!

ppeatfruit · 08/10/2016 16:20

True Blanche The other reason I'm being hard on myself is that most of my family is in the media business !

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