** Trigger Warning** DV Thread title changed by MNHQ Anne Robinson's Britain - Parenting anyone?

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See mumsnet got a mention.

Some of these are

Remember these are carefully edited snippets.

That's true. I'm sure the editing team wanted her to look as wacky as possible and her kids did look happy.

But I still don't agree with not leaving kids alone with their father. I think that really undermines a father's role. Plus only one night out as a couple in 9 years!

I wondered exactly the same as a pp mentioned about Tommy. If he had been a single mother, I don't think the smiles would've been quite so forthcoming.

And the house was a fucking tip! Perhaps an hour on front of the to would do well so a bit of tidying could be done!

Have another look at 'the fucking tip' we did. There was clumps of stuff - but not horder high piles; scribbled on walls - but not bloody great holes, torn off doors etc; bits of missing carpet, dust on skirtingboards - but the kitchen sink, table etc were clean, as were the beds!

I think that as far as cleaning goes, he was just being 'good enough' - the point of the programme! Many people live their lives like that - MNers not included, you understand!

I grew up with friends from lots of backgrounds. Lots of parenting styles, lots of different financial circumstances, and not one of them lived in a house like that.

Good enough is fine, that's what I do, but Christ, tidy up the fecking house!

The single dad never mentioned why the children don't see their mum, having known her I understand she left due to dv and has tried on many occasions to see the children of which he will not allow. I also know that being on carers allowance she cannot afford to take him to court to see her children and only found out about the show when she saw an advert with her children on it within the last few days of which she is disgusted by. Despite asking for help in regards to her children no organisation helped. Not everything is as plain sailing as people make out and like to come across.

Lilirose you 'understand' she left because of DV? As you clearly don't have facts about their relationship I think it's rubbish to be speculating about it on a public forum like MN.

I understand because I lived with it. She left 5 years ago and was stopped seeing her children end of last year she has tried this year even turning up on their doorstep. I miss my siblings but my mum tried everything she could. I'm disabled so mum is my carer.

I'm sorry Lilli, from your post it sounded like speculation. I apologise for questioning.

Loved the single dad! Hope it wasn't DV

That's ok. I'm just not happy seeing my mum being questioned and lied about when people have no idea what has happened.

I was wondering why she wasn't mentioned. Hope she / you are ok Lilirose. It must have made difficult viewing.

It was really hard to watch, but nice to see my siblings. The house is a mess and mum isn't happy with the safeguarding of their names, school location and house location being said and shown on TV. We are both alright. We spoke about it afterwards and today, it just isn't nice seeing your family on tv or the way they live. Mum doesn't agree with having a messy house or smacking or making us eat a full meal. None of mum's side of the family are allowed to see my siblings so we watched it together for support.

I do know some single dads and the reasons and realise that there must have been some back story with this one. It is never straight forward.

KOKO Lili and hope you get to see your siblings for real.

Sorry this is my Google account. I used to have to protect my mum and siblings take the hits for her as in felt it was my duty too. I witnessed the smacks first hand and they were a lot worse than what he showed on TV they only said they would like to take part in the demonstration of how he smacked because they were excited to be on TV. I remember one time he tried to throw me over the banister and down the stairs because I was trying to protect my family

Am I being stupid but why can't she have access to the kids? Xx

I would have thought with child protection they would have been taken from him and given to her

It doesn't always work the way it should.

Dh said he gave him a funny feeling (ooooh err), like his hackles went up.

There is no reason why she can't have the kids, he just wants attention and that will just help promote his puppet business. Plus since she has left him I have even more siblings so social services haven't actually stopped contact he is just ignoring the court order. My mum hasn't had social involved the two new siblings so there are no concerns mums side

What's DV?

Domestic violence

DV = domestic violence

Thank you.

so why can't she see the kids? Shouldn't she have the children if he was violent ?

Unfortunately it doesn't work like that