Our Girl and Captain James Addicts part XXVIII - Long my he Reign

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The CJ Collective "Sophisticated Silliness"

Feel free to join in as we discuss all things Our Girl and Captain James related.

Honorary Members of The CJ Collective:
Ben Aldridge
Tony Grounds
Lacey Turner
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Series 2- Filming starts Jan 2016
Cast members confirmed-
Michelle Keegan as Corporal Georgie Lane

Maddie sorry your financial advice wasn't what you were hoping for. Was it a straight "You need to go back full time" or did he/she have any practical suggestions?

I got carried away there - re the Facebook stuff, I meant she was writing about the chap I told you about yesterday who had died.

Morning all. ilove personally I think it's probably going a bit far really. i don't think it's her place to say that but maybe she didn't realise how it looked or sounded?! It isn't a nice way for people who didn't know about it to find out.
The adviser recommended going from 5 days to 4 but I was hoping to do 3.5 and feel guilty about him being leaving him so much. Ah well I'm sure he'll have a great time at nursery/my mums and I'll just be worrying all the time!

Oh and happy birthday Mr Aldridge sung in my best Marilyn Monroe impression

Birthday boy

Going back to work is always a balance. I went back 4 days for various reasons, I could just about squeeze 5 days work into 4 (well I thought I could, in reality it's very shit), plus after mortgage and nursery fees 3 days wouldn't have have really covered it.

MrP's work let him work flexibility for a year or 2 so he had DS for a day which meant we only needed 3 days at nursery. It was still tough finance wise though. Make sure you both claim childcare vouchers (or whatever the equivalent is these days, I know they aren't as generous now), but be warned, until those free hours kick in nursery costs are horrendous.

Yeah thanks pix the need of paying for bills and needing to pay for nursery means the 4 days a week. I didn't know about childcare vouchers until yesterday and we are both entitled to them so will be definately using them. Booked DS in a nursery when he was born as they are so busy and literally nearly choked when they told me how much it's costs a day He better have fun

Morning! You have my sympathies mads I remember going back to work for 3 days a week after DS2 was born and I was £100 a month short on nursery fees and I'm going back 15 years here despite a well paid job. DH had to make up the difference which with hindsight now just seems so ridiculous. Plus like you I felt so guilty letting other people raise my boys etc. All I can advise is do whatever you feel is right for you; remember time flies by so it'll only seem five minutes of outrageous nursery fees and he'll be starting school which is a whole different ball bag of childcare problems pre-9am and post-3.15pm. Not to disrespect nurseries either, it's worth remembering the brilliant job they do in making your child sociable, giving them a routine/regime to prepare them for school, more independent and well educated etc. All my boys started school already able to read and write, hold a pencil, eat with a knife and fork, toilet trained etc; all the things that some 4/5year olds still can't do once they start school. Just make sure you find a good nursery is my advice. We still see our nursery girls and they are always interested to know how my boys are doing - we went to one of their weddings and they're even friends on the boys' Facebook! So nursery isn't necessarily a dark dismal place you send your child to be punished.

There ends today's sermon.

Ooh and Happy Birthday Captain Sexonlegs I'm just pondering on what BA would look like in a Foxy wetsuit...

Morning all.

Yes indeed The Bossman's birthday! I wonder what he's doing to celebrate. I hope he remembers my offer to give him the birthday bumps.
Lovely pic mads.

Re: nursery fees. Yes, they are extortionate. Ours were only in private nursery a couple of months and I couldn't believe the price.

Your nursery sounds a lot better than the one ours went to woof. I dont think ours were taught much really plus I heard one of them shout at one twin terribly when they thought I wasn't there. I should've moved them after that but they were leaving then anyway.

I've got a feeling woof BA's bulge would be pretty easy to see. I think he'll be well packed.

I should say mostly nurseries are great mads. They do bring kids on by a mile. I think mine just had a strange woman who worked there. Your littlie will love it though and make lots of new friends.

I loved my son's nursery. They were wonderful. I cried like a twat when he left.

He's an incredibly sociable and confident child, he made the transition to school seem effortless (we aren't quite there on the eating with cutlery front so not as amazing as woof's kids). I give credit to nursery for that. He got so much out of it, more than he ever would have done being at home with me.

Just try not to think about the cost.

Here, here woof, a good nursery is a solid foundation for starting primary school. When we had our first son I hadn't a clue and he went to a church led nursery which was wonderful. Games, playing and generally being social. The result is a very confident boy that always got on well at school. However he couldn't read, hold a pencil and was quite behind when he started school. (Actually still struggles now, has a lap top for school cause of his dreadful writing!)

Bring on son no 2, we had moved so he went to the pre school near the primary school. Very much led with play, however they all got taught how to read and write their names before starting reception. It did make a huge difference.

We didn't get funding for ages and I ending up doing cleaning work for cash just to help pay the bills. I remember quickly changing son that no one would see the bleach stained clothes when picking up!!!

Seems like a long age ago!

Anyway happy birthday mr Sexy! I'm decorating at the moment and day dreaming BA rollering with me!!!!

Happy birthday Captain Gorg, older, wiser, sexier - the 30s are a fabulous decade, young enough to play hard but with the confidence of age. Swoon, I'm liking the thought of BA in his 30s Looking forward to our message of thanks for the card

As opposed to rolling you eh Rich ?

Oh dear did I sound a pompous prat there pix ? My DSs are by no means perfect and are still right little bleeders most of the time. I only meant to say that being brought up within nursery boundaries meant they developed a lot quicker and more rounded than I could ever have achieved by myself at home propping them up in front of Teletubbies 3hour videos which is what they actually did do when not at nursery

All I meant to advise mads is to try looking beyond the extortionate cost and see some of the advantages to good nursery care, not to mention the fact that you yourself get to mingle with adults again at work rather than ga-ga-goo-gooing all day long.

Oh my, I can't cope with this advice lark - think I'll stick to pontificating on the goings on inside Foxy's pants, that's more my bag

The resistance to cutlery is not from want of trying by myself or the excellent nursery setting woof. He's just a recalcitrant little gobshite sometimes. That and the fact that since he started school he eats like a pig at a trough. That's the real thing they don't tell you about school, those table manners you've been trying to teach them since they could sit up just go out the bloody window.

And breathe...

Now, onto more pleasant thoughts of Cpt Sternface-twirlyfinger-headset-lip bite-curlsatthenapeofhisneck-Shoutypants in his birthday suit.

Ah sorry I didn't mean to cause problems with my musings! And again I appreciate all the pearls of wisdom. I think I just feel bad for putting him in but I know it will be great for him and allow him be social, learn live skills and do messy play rather than me do that also he will learn more than he will currently bouncing in his jumperoo whilst I search google for naked BA birthday pics and read M rated fan fiction
Thanks again all

What I said about my easygoing school over Children in Need? Scrap that. I have to dress DS as Victorian urchin for a day of 'living history' in a couple of weeks.

They want him in a collarless shirt, I'm sure I know someone with one of those.....

Yes, the delicious Mr Aldridge is 30 today, doesn't seem so bad to fancy the pants off him admire him, now he's 30

Echo, nurseries. The one we chose also does pre and after school as well as holiday club. I am looking forward to the reduced fees when L turns 3 next year.

Bah! Can't see any birthday tweets from his friends I know of with any interesting party pics attached probably to do with the blue tick thing I can't get my head round Unless of course he's partying tonight or at the weekend.

Do I sound desperate for new pics of him or something?

Yes dizzy I love the idea of a 30's BA too.

rich did you say you saw London Spy and you thought it was good? Well ditto to that. It was great. Alex I was thinking was like a Russian, quiet CJ type with a sort of 50 shades red room going on (if that makes sense). Can't wait for next weeks. I won't say what was in the box and spoil for people who haven't seen it yet.

Ooh maybe he's at his parents today kelly then has a big weekend of naughtiness planned

A Victorian urchin pix? That's a new one. That reminds me when DD went to the Victorian classroom with her class a few weeks ago at Beamish Museum. The kids came out practically traumatised at how strict it was in those days. I think a few of DDs teachers were traumatised too as the lady wa so realistic

Ah yes Victorian Day, outwitted only by Tudor Week when the kids were forcefed potage and forced to wear cardboard ruffs by me coz I couldn't be bothered to knit one out of finest lace like the Cholomondley-Warners I have a pic somewhere of my little darling dressed as a Victorian urchin ie. his normal weekend clothes, I'll see if I can root it out pix to show what a yummy mummy I really am not