Is anyone watching Rain in my Heart on BBC2 now?

[Aero]

Is all filmed locally to me and is totally heartbreaking.

basically people don't enter the system until they are ill/incapacitated

and you have to ask for/seek help push for it as the family of the young man said if there is no one pushing then you won't get it

and alcoholics are very difficult to help

my brother is an alcoholic now of no known address and the last time i spoke to him I rang the pub in the village he was last known to live in..it was just before Christmas last year and he happened to be in there and I spoke to him

I sent him a birthday card in August to the local post office and it was returned [sda]

I haven't seen him since my mum died 5 years ago

He did have a well paid job as a telecoms engineer, a wife a daughter and two houses...god knows now if he is still alive

oh zippi

have you tried to track him down? what's happened to his wife and kids?

she left him and i haven't seen her since..he sold the house in the village and moved onto someones floor (it's a one pub tiny place) and my sister saw him then we didn't hear anything and I just rang the pub before last Christmas..prior to that i had contacted the slavation army and someone rang me and was quite cross and said that if we hadn't moved then it wasn't up to us to look for him it was up to him to contact us if he wanted

any way I spoke to him in the pub and just said did he want to come for Christmas and think about it and he said he didn't know and I sent him a card there and haven't heard anything since

sent his card to the post office which is next to the house he used to live in and the village pub and it was sent back with gone away written on

he was normal and then he had the odd binge and then things slipped away down the slope

zippi, how sad

have you tried missing persons? or perhaps you could call the pub and ask? They often have a good hold on people who are regularly drinking there.

and as much as I can see the Salvation Army's point, when it is something like alcoholism, often the person feels terrible shame about what they are doing or suffers from other mental health problems that make it hard for them to act in a responsible way