I think the parents on that programme were all doing a lot with their kids at home. Although Thomas was presented as one of the kids who wasn't being pushed, they still said that his mum was working with him for four hours a day!!
That's a lot of work, even if he was instigating it.
I have a very bright child - probably not as exceptional as Thomas but certainly not dissimilar to many of the other kids on this programme. Who knows what she would be capable of if I spent four hours a day teaching her?! However, she has other stuff to do and so do I!
Personally, I think it is a ghastly programme though compulsive viewing and I really can't understand why the parents allow their children to appear on it. However, think it's equally ghastly that grown adults on an internet forum can sit around and pick holes in the personalities of children who appear. They're children ffs!
And yes, I am absolutely of the view that there is nothing mutually exclusive about high intelligence and good social skills. Of course children need to learn to tone it down and behave with a little humility. But we all know that these programmes are edited in a particular way, to show us what the producers want us to see. I would hate for the children in question to read what is written about them on some of these threads. They don't deserve it.