BBC MUSKETEERS: thread 86. There's treason at the palace and treason at the BBC. Give us back our Musketeers.

[AnneOfAramis]

Here we are again. Grab a Beardy Fucker, pull up a chaise and LetUs (nto) all fall into a drunken stupor.

Start as we mean to go on.

Ouch!
You ok wifey? :(

Well, we have all been fed, dishes done, dishwasher on, washing in from line, door locked.
That's it.
Is it bedtime yet!?

It's ok. I read in a recipe that you should grate the onion instead of chopping and I thought, what a great idea
It's covered in toilet paper and cling film at the moment so I could continue cooking. I skipped the onion though
Bit pissed off though, feel a bit handicapped.

Ouch ww, do you need Dr Aramis to patch you up, or would you prefer Dr Lemay?

Bloody hell badders, are you determined to show me up?

Yesterday's no-show freecycler did get in touch & has just been. My garage is looking slightly less full and my eco-conscience has been stroked. Win win.

Eww! nasty wicked

Bads i'm relieved to hear about BIL. Bodes well. I hope you get some rest this evening at some point

Wicked never be tempted to buy a mandolin. They've got maiming potential all over them

Think I would prefer dr Athos

Ouch! Food processor maybe? What are you cooking?

Oooh I remember when I was a teen...I was opening a tin of peas or something (they days before ring pulls) and slipping and the serrated lid cutting into my knuckles.
You could see the bone!

Oh, that kind of mandolin Elk. At first I thought you meant the music instrument

I'm making pannbiffar, flat meatballs I managed ok actually

Thanks for the warning elk, I was going to say I thought they looked safer than graters, but now I know to avoid them like the plague.

They sound lovely ww . Are they spicy? I do like hot meaty balls . I think Dr Athos has one remedy for all ailments - the liberal application of alcohol.

Fancy

I've only used salt and peppar, making a classic version. Will eat them with potatoes and lingonberry jam

Bads Do you want me to come over?

I couldn't resist, ww They still sound good, spicy or not

Tonight I am being lazy & doing baked potatoes for dinner - probably DD's favourite meal ever. I've not done them since the night before she had her brace fitted as the crispy skin is her favourite part. That's all settled down now so she can properly enjoy them

I wonder if I could ask you wenches if Aibu?

Dh has - IMO - been a real dick since bil got ill (a week tomorrow....that's gone so fast!)
He and his family do not cope well with medical stuff - to the point of ridiculousness tbh. Mil had a minor health scare in oct last year and she is now on anti depressants it's affected her so badly!
anyway...
On Friday I felt dreadful...no sleep, not really eating much and of course all that stress and worry had come to a head I think.
I needed to go to the hospital to take mum (she hadn't been in) but felt so ill I didn't feel like I could drive.
I asked Dh to pick us up (a friend took us in) and he refused.
He said "I was planning a normal Friday"
I.e...he would take the dc to his parents and then go to play football.
Now...I know that I was asking him not to play football...but was Aibu?
Or - as I suspect - was he being a total dick?
He knows I am pissed off (friend took us and picked us up too bless her) but I am so tired of him letting me down when I need him.
He is just so....set in his ways.
I'm really quite upset by it all. He just face timed the kids and I made up some stuff to do in the kitchen so I didn't have to talk to him :(

WW...yes I do :( I feel very alone ATM :(
Thing is I feel like a real birch because he texted and said he has a presentation to do tomorrow which he isn't looking forward to and I just replied that I am not prepared to support him and care as he doesn't do that for me.
Oh dear :(

Poor Baddz

He's a dick Bads! Play fotball???? Seriously????

Sigh.
His whole family are just so....weird. Nice people, but weird.
It's like "if we dont talk about it it hasn't happened"
His sis is having ivf. Everyone knows. But we haven't been told and can't talk about it.
And fil has this habit of saying things he deems upsetting or not nice out of the corner of his mouth but at triple the volume so of course everyone hears it anyway!
"Yes. Poor Vera. She had CANCER"
Sigh.
It's just so alien to me.
If I can help someone I will....even if it inconveniences me. My dad used to say I was "soft as grease' and perhaps he was right, but i would rather be like that than an emotionally stunted twat :(

Badders I'm really shocked that he did that :(

A kind person would have agreed immediately. How does he feel about the fact that you have to rely on friends being kind because he is refusing to be supportive?

You have had the shittiest time with losing so many relatives in such a short space of time - has he stopped to think about whether you've had a chance to grieve properly for anyone, never mind get back to being your old self.

There would be some who would say you shouldn't have sent that text, but hopefully it will hit home - he cannot just expect you to carry on as normal AND be his support when he is offering you none.

No, it's not you being unreasonable badders

It's reasonable for you expect help & support from a DP at a time like this. Had you not been going to the hospital, would he have stayed home with you for support & company? You would have been reasonable to expect that too.

Is it all to do with not liking change/being bad with medical stuff, or is it at least partly not liking not having everything working around him? i.e. this is a time when you should be the priority. (I may be way off the mark here, but my ex was a bit like this)

Oh, and if you feel like a bitch, that proves you're not - you feel guilty for putting yourself first for once, only a lovely person would feel guilty for that .

He is BU Badders. Can you speak before he goes away? No doubt someone on MN would say the football is his stress reliever but even so.

:(
Thanks.
He can't change who is is I guess.
But...I don't know. Maybe life is too short for this :(
He is a good dad. And I know he loves me.
I just feel very alone.
When I told him that I was hurt and disappointed about Friday his reply was that he "needs his exercise and to take care of himself after what has happened to bil"
!!??
Well..yes. We are all shocked. But he is the only one being a dick.

He didn't even ask how bil was when I got back on Sunday.
Oh! He is back at the local hospital now. So hopefully sis can start to get into more of a routine.

. As if missing one game would make any difference. Married men live longer than single ones, he'd do well to remember that and direct his efforts accordingly