I watched the programme - I found it neither voyeuristic nor educational. Not quite sure what I make of it.
What I did take away from it was
- how woefully under resourced our police forces are, both in terms of manpower and money and
- the volume of men (and women) out there who are prepared to contact underage girls and
- the pitiful sentencing of the offenders.
The retired police officer who was interviewed made some interesting comments about his own time in child protection.
- when 'fishing' the decoy would hook multiple 'groomers'. Too many for them (police) to monitor and reel in.
I have no problem with SH and Co doing this. Quite frankly our system is not coping and if this catches/deters wouldbe offenders then I'm all in favour. I think he behaved quite professionally with the 'groomers' and all information was collated and given to police.
My concerns are
- copy cat vigilantes who are less interested in collection and preservation of evidence and more interested in physical punishment.
- uploading to FB potentially prejudicing any trial.
Whilst I feel for the families of the 'groomers' it cannot be that our compassion for the innocent provides a shield for the offenders. They (groomers) know and exploit this. The families should be offered our support and love. It is not their fault so they should not suffer. We should be beyond public shunning for fear of 'contamination'.
However, I was troubled by the comments of the ex-partner of the 'groomer' who committed suicide.
There was a belief of blame - that SH caused the 'groomer' to commit suicide. That SH robbed her child of a father. I'm afraid I wholeheartedly disagree. The man initiated contact knowing the decoy was underage/highly inappropriate sexual language/intent to carry out the sexual references/and went to meet the decoy.
If the 'groomer' had been taken to court, what were the chances of him being able to have a father/child relationship? Slim to none I think. Perhaps the ex-partner is still in shock/grieving - probably for a man who did not really exist. You question your relationship, your ability to make judgements. It must be so incredibly hard for her.
The idea that grooming is somehow a lesser offence, that as no actual physical harm befell the child - that this mitigates the circumstances. This is dangerous and seems to pervade current thinking. We cannot monitor thought bit we can monitor and punish actions. Just because the 'groomers' did not meet a real child or in other scenarios perpetrate actual abuse, does in my mind, not make it a lesser offence. Different but not lesser.