Murdered by my boyfriend

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On bbc3 now.

Drama about domestic violence,

Not trying to disagree with you by the way, just thinking out loud iyswim. Sorry if it sounded like I was dismissing what you said.

I mean, we need to look at where it comes from. Punishing it doesn't achieve much. Prevention is where we need to start and the little kids I see being treated with zero respect by their mothers and fathers in the playground, at the school gates, are prime candidates for growing up to abuse in turn.

Watched it on demand today. Heartbreaking, utterly heartbreaking. I was willing her to take those opportunities to get out, even though I knew what the end was.

It will stay with me for a long time.

Punishing does achieve something though... It achieves some small comfort for families victims like Ashley that the monster who did that is locked away somewhere with no access to their child. And yes I hope he gets the shit kicked out of him in jail who cares if it changes him he will feel pain that he deserves to feel.

Yes much more does need to be done to prevent little boys becoming like Reece. Equally much more needs to be done to help victims leave for good.

I have watched this today. It reminds me a lot of my ex though he was never that bad. It makes me frightened for my dd. It's one of the hardest things I have ever watched.

Just watching this now,utterly terrifying.
I have no experience of DV but this is heartbreaking.

Another one here who's just watched it. Never cried so much at a programme before. :( The last bit was truly heart breaking. I agree it should be shown on bbc1.

I wasn't expecting to cry so much during the end but I think the acting was so good and it felt so realistic. I don't know how someone can do that to another human being.

The part I found depressing was when he was banging on the window and she started dancing to the music. It was as if she knew he would never give up and no one could help her and she lost hope and accepted it and her fate. And then in the next scene he us putting an engagement ring on her finger. There seemed to be no way out for her.

I watched this last night and can't stop thinking about it. The bit at the end where that poor little girl was crying for her mummy while that animal smashed her face in with the ironing board was just horrific. I agree it needs to be shown on bbc1. Crying again just thinking about it, truly harrowing stuff

I hope BBC1 pick this up too. There is very little understanding of domestic abuse and people still question why the victim stayed with their abuser. Another way to put blame on the victim. So many times I've heard people say 'if my dp/dh ever hit me i'd be straight out of the door', like its that simple.

It was such an excellent (yet chilling) piece of drama. Really raises a number of issues re DV.

On a slightly pedantic note did anyone understand the things Reece mouthed? He tended to do it when he was trying to act normal/nice in company but would look directly at her and mouth something.

I have just watched this. Unbelievably harrowing and horrifying.

I agree that this should be shown far and wide. To teenagers, police officers, everyone.

Margo - I "think" he was saying stuff like "get her to leave NOW" when she was painting the nails.

It should be put on BBC1 definitely.

Harrowing. Powerful. Chilling!

The part that made me cry wasn't the actual murder, but where her friend begs her to leave him and offers to have her to stay (he's making cakes with their daughter). You know she can't/won't

What happened to her mother? Was she the person who said they were just passionate, and not boring, or something like that

Yes, I understood what he was mouthing to get the woman having her nails done to leave. Similar to what peanut says.

I've just watched this on iPlayer and I will ask my 15yo DD to watch it.

It's heartbreaking.

I watched this last night on iplayer - What a harrowing piece , it made myself and my husband go shaky and neither of us could sleep for ages. But what a fantastic piece about domestic violence. So harrowing but shockingly true for many women.
I think it should be compulsory viewing for all late teens.

Aside from raising awareness through things like this and raising our children to know about dv etc -what else can any of us do to help?

I feel very sad that there are women right now suffering this and children who witness it and for whom it has become normal

Precious - so sorry you had those experiences, from your step fathers behaviour and your mothers reaction to your relationship it sounds like dv was normal for her too.
But YOU managed to break the chain!

I've just watched this on bbc1 and am in tears. I can't help wondering what happened to that little girl.
He should NEVER be released.

All young women should watch this to know what to avoid. I can't stop thinking about it.

Just watched this on iplayer. I now know the meaning of when your blood runs cold. I just sobbed after watching it.

I had to hug my little girl so tightly. Her poor mother must have felt so helpless and her poor little girl.

An insecure vile piece of scum.

Everybody should know about DV and what it's really like. It's never just physical abuse its always psychological too. Police, social services, women's aid even are there to help but if they do the slightest cockup its you that pays the price and you lose all trust in seeking help.

If there was wider understanding in the community as a whole, I honestly believe more people would get out and be saved. Going down the 'official route' is just too scary.

this was what my life was like. glad it was made so people can see how the fear controls you. for every one of you sitting there all shocked and disturbed there is another for who its all too familiar. if disturbing to watch think how it feels to live it. i am glad i got out before i was beneath the ironing board but the fear of him still controls me