Obsesive Compulsive Cleaners anyone …….?

[recall]

Just watching this and finding it a bit sexist. The wife/mother is the one having to justify the dirty house while her husband stands behind her. When she says she has 2 children, one at school and one at home, he asks her what she dos all day?..fucking idiot

Aww God love her this family are lovely.

I haven't watched it either, but my first thought was depression too. As Trinity says, it can make it very hard to find the motivation to do the things you know you should be doing. If the house was actually filthy, I imagine the thought of even starting was overwhelming. You can't think that people like living like that?

A friend of mine is a clutter rat. My Dp won't even go in the house. Her poor dp gets shouted at if he tries to sort it. She buys and buys all the time and then wonders why they're skint. You struggle to put your cup down in there. She'd never go on TV though.

Well that was good will watch it again.

HA ! great parenting?.stick the child in a cage while you clean the house ! Classy.

Play pen recall, play pen. It's a safe area for a child to play in so the SAHP can get on with other jobs.

My house has stayed clean and we never owned a playpen.

I've loved today's episode- Kay and Kristy are lovely, but I too got annoyed with the SAHM. I don't like housework either and only have one child but I couldn't live with that mess (let's be honest, filth- how could she never have cleaned that oven?!!) and wouldn't want my DD exposed to all of it. The husband is not blameless either, he should have done some stuff whilst at home but I do think it is the main responsibility of the SAHP to do the lion's share of the housework.

I had a playpen and my house still wasn't clean

trying to be lighthearted

dont fight please

I'm watching it now and I dont think she is depressed

I had a travel cot that I used as a playpen Trinity, but the house still got messy because I had a DH. DD was a doll compared to him

ok I think she is lazy and annoying now

grr shes pissing me off

Recall what would be the excuse for the 2 years the oven wasn't cleaned before they had the kids. Let's just face it, some people are lazy, they don't need to de depressed or exhausted by the never ending toil of looking after a child, some people are just lazy.

that poor poor woman Kay

To those "defending" Jody.
If he was the SAHP and SHE was out at work all day, would you say he may be depressed? Overwhelmed? He fault as much as his?

No, I thought not.

I take it back BMW

she is lazy and trying to make it sound like she has been being such a good mum that she hasn't got the time for housework

shes annoying me

Oh and Recall, as for the "putting your child in a cage" comment - are you old enough to HAVE children?? Too peurile for words....

Ta Trinity!
Sometimes the "feminism" on here makes my piss boil!!

I agree the house was a shit hole, but I just think her husband should take part of the responsibility too.

I earn the same as my husband, and I work sort of opposite to his office hours. We have 3 children under 5. I am forgetting that she doesn't work at all, and comparing her to me. I think if I did not go out to work, I would be able to manage all the cleaning. I just remember the misery and exhaustion of being pregnant whilst looking after toddlers and breast feeding etc....and working evenings and weekends... I must have been mad

Amazing to see at the end that Christie now only cleans once a week not the twice a day she was doing!
I think that is the only OCD featured that has "stepped back" from it, a win win for her and the poor lady Kay, who was in need of help (not just a lazy slob like Jody)

Well in your situation Recall the household chores would be at least 50/50. You are both out to work, if also pregnant he does a bit more to allieviate.

Playpens are still not cages though. Children should be able to play "alone" so they use imagination and interact with toys themselves. While you can keep an eye on them.

Are they out of fashion nowadays? (I am 55)

I'm only 34 and 13 months and I had a playpen for all my three 12, 7 and 6

I've yet to see this (I'll look on catch-up), so I'm talking generally here, but when it comes to actual filth and clutter which makes a place uninhabitable, yes, there are very often MH issues in women and men. In a situation where the man is at home and the woman working, you're right, I wouldn't automatically assume depression. But that's not because it's impossible, just that with men, not cleaning up after themselves is so culturally-reinforced, that you at least have to consider whether they aren't just being a lazy entitled dick who thinks it's beneath them as a man. Whereas women are usually conditioned to see cleaning as at least part of their role in a household, so when it lapses into extreme filth, I'd think they were probably not being quite themselves, if you see what I mean? I don't think that's feminism gone rampant or anything, or that there are men AND women who aren't just lazy buggers/depressed/whatever, but it's just making a generalization from how things tend to pan out in our (sexist) culture.

IMO, a play pen is a cage, self absorbed play can still be encouraged without them. The play pen is for the convenience of the parent, not the child. That is just how I view them. Its not rocket science.