Meee-lene on OBEM tonight!!

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How exciting!

Yeh, was he freaked out by the screaming. Is that Doula a bit of a sham or what?

I have never seen a more useless bloke in labour. No wonder she got a doula

Great for you stranded but for many it's horrifically painful.
I always raise an eyebrow at women who dismiss such things just because their experience wasn't as painful.

Myelene was on the one show recently urging everyone to give everything they had to help children with malaria(I think it was malaria) I now presume she lives a very basic life giving majority of her income away!

I'm a screamer.

Well, more of a moo-er

I couldn't cope with the pain but I wasn't a screamer - it was more like a sorry for myself whimper whilst begging dh to rub my back harder and harder and don't stop not even for a second. I found it horrifically painful - but as I said, I'm a wuss

hello!
sorry to butt in but just started watching (had it paused whilst chatting to my mum for half an hour) Anyway there was a warning about it being disturbing - has anything been disturbing? I can cope with bodily fluids but nothing that may mean the baby's in trouble.

Will I be alright watching it???

Didl I do my husband! It terrifies him truly that I we decided he'd never be my Birth partner. Although he has been slightly more involved each time.

I hope I'm not a screamer or a poo-er...

You need to be very careful Stranded. Because every labour is different, not just woman to woman but baby to baby. It's not a set level of pain and you handle it well or you don't. I had a severely malpositioned baby first time round and the pain was out of this world. I ended up with severe ptsd and pnd and the single most difficult thing I had to deal with afterwards was the sweeping 'oh stop making a fuss' or faces (especially on obem threads on mn). Because it's bad enough feeling like a failure without other women judging you and criticising you for an experience they have no firsthand experience of.

OTOH, I had a 37hr back to back labour with my 2nd and didn't so much as wince. So I can understand that different labours feel different and had I only ever had ds I wouldn't understand how utterly debilitating labour can be.

Just be a bit careful about how you make these comments please.

Is that next show any good? It looks like it should be but probably isn't iyswim.

Ha ha, the take away on the wheelchair!

Agree allnight. There is a lot of baby talk at work at the moment and some are saying how they 'didn't make a sound', implying that they are somehow superior to those who did

OO I'd like a doula. She'd be my repositary of clear thinking while I was out of my mind in pain

Why is the doula a sham?

She is only there for support though i think I would have got her to do some breathing techniques to get her through it. At least she is now on the ball.

Stotie most of the births they show turn out fine in the end, they always give the warning.
There is only been one episode that I found distressing when a baby got stuck and had a lot of intervention and it was very touch and go.
But mostly it's just gore but then beautiful babies.

My mw I saw at 1st appt said it was a waste of energy to scream and wail and that always stayed in my head.

I was scarily silent.

I am, sadly, both a moo-er and a poo-er. On the bright side, I am (unexpectedly) not a swearer.

When it was time to push I asked if I should be grunting/screaming like I'd seem on tv, but mw said it would use more energy that way - which makes sense, so I too was silent, maybe just a slight grunty push

thanks!

I hadn't noticed the 'disturbing' notice before - I just can't cope with being too disturbed but gore - yep no probs!

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When I went in with my first, I could hear a screamer and it scared both me and my dh!