those folk ont he house of tiny tearaways - do they need their heads examining?

[TheFish]

i mean how cna you possible think 24 yogurts a day is normal?

or that never leaving your dd alone with her dad is normal

nutters all of em

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ill be htere

Oh yes, stalker mama is on! Hurray, she redefines clingy mum for me.

theya re all very fat

tanyas hooter is hooky

Tanya told dad of Alyssa, that he was no more than a sperm donor last night! Mum lets him have NO imput into anything Alyssa related.

they are so appalling though aren't they. really their problems are so patently self-made it makes me want to weep. Its not exactly rocket science. And people on here say not to judge PMSL

the sleep problem kid, don't you just want to give the dad a backbone .. and yesterday Tanya set a bonding exercise where dad played with little girl doing collage and mum had to sit outside, watching through the glass .. the mum left them alone for about 5 minutes and they were happy then started mouthing through the glass at little girl, then said 'I can't understand you' and came in and said 'she wants to put that piece there' .. total control freak

The thing I hate is that they all have a really obvious psychological problem that is causing the problems with child) ie, didn't bond with baby cos of previous still birth, over anxious cos baby nearly died when young, ex-heroin addict, their own childhood problms, previous relationship problems) So as soon as that comes out in the open it all goes swimmingly.

Its as if its only people with big tragedies in their life have problems with children.

Also the problems are really huge. I keep watching for help with my ds eating. But its never as extreme as these children so never much help.

I am totally addicted to THOTT and think thing Dr Tanya is amazing... it does make you realise that people are so f**ked up though... so many parents are so clingy and over-protective and look to their children to fill their emotional voids...

they need their heads examining for parading their inadequacies on national tv (and subjecting their children to that kind of scrutiny) for our entertainment, IMHO

I'm one of those useless, dopey mums. I used to stay with my ds every night till he fell asleep.I even used to sing '200 green bottles hanging on the wall!!!' It was a long time ago (ds now 18) but I think dh eventually got involved sufficiently to break the cycle.
Somehow ds seems to have survived my useless mothering.
Poor dd is only 13 so there's still plenty of time for me to mess her up even more than I have already.

I was wondering that actually, what happens to kids like Max (who only eats yoghurt) -- surely they don't reach adult hood only eating yoghurt! Has anyone had experience of a kid with a severely restricted diet who has got better on his/her own accord?

I've been fairly relaxed about feeding issues. I was a bit worried that ds only ate jars of baby food, nothing home cooked until he was about 18mths but he did eat pieces of fruit and veg.
Dd loved finger foods like sticks of carrot, cucumber, pinches of cheese etc so she lived on those for ages. Unfortunatley she has been overweight since she was about 9'ish. Not vastly but enough to worry me and I'm finding it really, really difficult to do anything effective about it.

I was watching it last week on BBC3. I thought the little boy who wouldn't eat was very sweet. He reminded me of DS1 when DS1 was that age.

the food boy (24 yogurts) - the dad was saying at the start of the week that he thought the boy would snap out of it and not to worry (! he?s nearly 3!)
But saw some of it last night and the poor child was terrified of going anywhere messy (don?t most kids love to get their hands in the paint etc) so clearly a much bigger problem. Mum is very very tidy (did you see shots of her house last night - child?s toys looked like ornaments on a shelf!)
Also last night the over-protective mother screaming ?Oh my god!? when her 2.5yo put her leg through the side of one of those wire playground walkways - way to scare the child.
Maybe I?m just too relaxed now I?m on to child no 3 (let him juggle knives etc). As fox says, note that those 2 are only children which I?m sure doesn?t help. Feel a bit sorry for them tbh.

Love this programme. Always so many good tips about managing small children. However, it does show how children become the focus of the parents issues or problems. Tanya Byron isn't really sorting out the children at all, she is sorting out the parents so that they can be the grown ups in the relationship and actually be in charge of their children.
Great stuff, love it.

I felt really sorry for the yoghurt boy. Didn't watch all of it but he seemed so distressed to have just a bit on his hands, I really felt sorry for him. Do they ever have an update show where you can see if the families stuck to the rules etc?

I love this programme - tanya is great because she explains the damage being done to the kids by not eating properly ie gut problems from not eating solid foods, speech problems from constsnt dummy sucking etc.

I like the show and I've got my own fair share of silly problems with ds but nothing like these people and always wonder "do these people never watch this kind of show, read any type of book or surf the net or talk to any friends, colleagues on these things!"...

it is weird. the people who go against TB's advice on the show really wind me up. They are on a national TV show with a proven professional and they still do the same old thing.

That couple that took the kid out in the car the first night really pissed me off. surely there is a better way than that and surely they could have refrained from doing that just for the first night. it must have cost them a fortune in petrol!

the most hysterical by far was over-protective mum - even I started to feel anxious listening to her shouting 'careful' every 10 seconds. The woman will have a heart attack before the child is 5 at that rate.

it should really be called The House With Parents With Issues, and Kids Who Severely Affected By Them (aka They F**k You Up....)

but to be fair... there always seems to be an underlying issue ie:

1. the family who all slept together on the floor in the living room - she had a hystorectomy (sp?) and was devestated so there was an issue there above and beyond common sense.

2. The women with the kid with the eating problems - she was a heroin addict and had other issues that contributed to this.

in addition to traumatising births, unfortunate timing with family deaths and emotional issues.

so... it isn't always that the parents are crap as such, just a little confused and in need of guidance I reckon.

I don't think they're crap at all, just have Big Issues and no one to help them, so their problems escalate over the years until they can't remember how it all began. I think Tanya is very good.

agree,and I love TB.

I would have definately benefitted from her wisdom after having my first child and not a clue how to deal with her.

I think it is easy to criticise other parenting 'styles' - personally I think they are very brave to go on such a programme.

I know what it feels like to be at the end of your tether, with no help or support,this is just the point that many of these families are at.

I do wonder how things are when they go back to reality though.

I presume they will be doing follow up programmes at some point?

arf at bundle

afgree totally

arf at bundle

afgree totally