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Pro-Anorexia websites -- really worrying

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Socci · 14/11/2005 20:15

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starlover · 14/11/2005 21:15

actually i take back what i said...

i just did google search and that site is number one anyway...

Socci · 14/11/2005 23:04

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Dunnyjo · 15/11/2005 10:07

I think this site is terrible! But i dont think it would make any difference at all even if these sites were banned. I used to have an eating problem and it all started when i was 10. I started putting on weight due to puppy fat stage and thought i was huge. Hated the way i looked and hated my self. I would make my self sick everytime i ate anything, took laxitives and slowly but surely stoped eating any meals. Maybe a biscut in the day. Some days i would binge eat then cry becuase i felt so useless. If it was not for mum realising what i was doing and going mad.(she read my diary!tut) but she helped and encouraged me. I am glad she did now.
These sites are never going to stop anyone its all about people trying to be in control (or so you think you are but no where near it)Now i am 23 and i have my son 19months and another on the way and i am bigger now lol but i dont mind. I know i can be in control and eat with common sence. I could not live without my food now!
Must admit though seeing celebs all nice and trim does not always help people but you have to draw the line somewhere and think to your self would you be any happier skinny? No no chance in hell. Its a constant battle fighting with your self.

Rhubarb · 15/11/2005 10:24

I don't think deleting this thread is the answer either. If girls wanted to see sites like that, all they have to do is Google. At least here they might stop to read all the comments we've posted.

I'd be more concerned that young children will click onto Mumsnet in their parents 'favourites' and read about what someone's flange tastes like or bizarre sexual requests from partners. After all, Mumnset is not a censored site, some Mumsnetters even have MN as their homepage, so there is nothing to stop their kids accessing all this stuff.

Far more worrying than an adult debate on anorexia.

monstersmummy · 15/11/2005 10:25

wondered how long it would b till this came up.

Not changing my name for this because i am who i am like it or not.

That site that someone linked, i have been on. Its typical of many on the internet that are easy to find if u know what to type. There are worse and there are some not so bad. Yes its supporting anorexia (ana) BUT unless u have really experienced it then u have no idea of the way that anorexia needs support. I disagree with encouraging ppl to BECOME that way . But i find it an invaluable support in a good way.

I have suffered from this for ten years now off and on. if i did not have these sites then i would not eat at all. the sites that i visit often tell me THINGS TO EAT. and i do. I do self harm on occasion(something that i haven't done for years) but these sites tell u how to do it safely, they tell u the first aid and they tell u how to heal. there are ppl in recovery and there are ppl who will support taht recovery.

Like starlover said its a double edged sword.

If u report it they will crop up elsewhere under different search parantheses(if taht is the word) and they will go underground. a simple pro ana/mia search in ANY search engine will show u sites that are no longer active.

frogs · 15/11/2005 11:03

Slight sidetrack -- as I have a 10yo dd1 I have sometimes been horrified by how early the whole 'I'm fat' thing sets in.

It would be really helpful to hear from posters with first-hand experience of eating disorders what they thought was a factor in getting them into that way of thinking, and what their parents might have been able to do to prevent that or steer them away from it.

kama · 15/11/2005 11:08

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beejay · 15/11/2005 12:03

In response to your question frogs, I can only give my own experience as someone who has never had an eating disorder. I was shocked when I turned up at uni and found that of my 'gang' of six new (female) friends, i was the only person never to have had bulimia, anorexia or an exercise obsession.
I was certainly not the slimmest of them (size 12-14), but I had almost no negative body image issues, whilst they had huge ones, despite being an average size 10.

I thought a lot about why this was, and came up with the following:

** I had never been forced to eat anything as a child. Food had never been a battleground in my house. if I didn't want to eat a particular food, my mum just took it away and said 'oh you are not hungry'. End of story. Hence food was never an emotional issue.

** I had never known my mother to be on a diet, to comfort eat or to talk or obsess about her weight. She wasn't particularly slim but was happy with her size

I don't know whether these are related, or maybe I was just lucky, but food for thought maybe? ( sorry terrible pun )

Socci · 15/11/2005 12:03

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NomDePlume · 15/11/2005 12:08

Hi ...,

Thanks for your concern. We understand why people are unnerved by the link but such a site but we genuinely don't believe it will encourage users to the site - more that it will act as a warning/ education to parents about the dangers sites like these present. We do tend to try and limit the amount we censor things and it does tend to hamper discussion, especially about sensitive topics.

Best wishes.
JJ
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On a thread titled 'Pro-Anorexia websites -- really worrying ', in the 'Telly Addicts' section.

The post was made on Monday, 14 November, 2005 8:24:31 PM , and is a link to a pro-anorexia website. I was using the link to demonstrate the damaging nature of these sites and their content, but it appears that I have inadvertently upset a number of MNers who feel that it is inappropriate for such a link to be associated with your site.

Please delete the post at your earliest convenience.

Thanks
NomDePlume

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Socci · 15/11/2005 12:28

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NomDePlume · 15/11/2005 13:11

thanks socci

compo · 15/11/2005 13:19

I agree with Socci. I thknk it is important for mums to know the kind of sorts that their teenage daughters can get access to. I've have been on these sites in the past and the whole 'thinspiration' concept is very addictive. When you're having a low day lookign at sites like these do stop you from eating and imo they are dangerous

compo · 15/11/2005 13:19

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