"upset those who genuinely have reason to be upset more"
Wow. Do you know how insulting that is? If your child was to die do you think anything could be worse than that? This storyline doesn't make us more upset than we already were, believe me that's not possible. Several people have already said that on this thread.
The point about the cladders and valuers is it wasn't undone, it still affected both industries. People remember. They believe that producers actually have a responsibility to show things honestly and accurately, that they research things. As an angel mummy and as a premature mummy the amount of times someone has quoted a soap at me as though it's real. The staff at the NNU last time I was in there were complaining at the affect that the Roxie/ Amy storyline was having.
"watch these episodes knowing what its all about and how it wil traumatise them,"
Same again, do you think a show can traumatise or bring memories "flooding back"? Do you not think watching your healthy baby die in your arms knowing there's nothing they can do because she's just too small and it's because your body rejected her is the most traumatic thing a mother could ever go through? Do you not think that I don't live that 27 hours through every day of my life, so vividly I feel like I could change events? Don't be so insulting.
"but ronnie is a bit of a nutter anyway "
Maybe I'm watching something different but that's not the way I've seen her. I agree with TigerseyeMum, I had a massive row in a meeting once. My landlord uses a service for grounds and maintenance work that is a training provider for people with mental health difficulties. One of the management came to talk to us about what they do and another resident started complaining about allowing someone who could attack her into her home. I watched the manager and our own staff try to defend the project without her much allowing them to, getting angry listening to her then I blew up! People with mental health problems are more likely to harm themselves than someone else. Besides which I don't believe there is anything wrong with Ronnie. She's maybe a little hard because of the things she's been through but she's a successful business woman.
"you don't generally, as a rational thinking person, watch a storyline like this and suddenly think "OMG, mothers that suffer the loss of a child are mentalists who might come after my child," most rational-thinking individuals will think "what a bloody ridiculous storyline." "
You've obviously not read this thread because several people have said they've already had this reaction when they lost their own baby! People are horrible when someone has lost a child, some of it I've had to just laugh about because it's been so ridiculous I can't believe a rational person (get this, even HCPs) can say something so awful. Those people who already think horrible things about us will feel justified.
mouseface my OH hasn't seen it and normally he likes to mock about "it's not real" but I told him what's happening and he's angry about it, so yes totally fathers are affected too.
wintera, she wasn't trying to pass it off as her own and the story was done straight away. I don't think she killed herself, IIRC she was run over and Kevin took Bethany from her in time.
The message at the end "If you've been affected by Kat and Ronnie's situation..." Oh yeah, when my daughter died, I walked into the next room (so glad I was in delivery at the time) and picked up the next baby...
Those of us who have lost children are silent too often. We don't count our children when asked how many we have (can you imagine how much it hurts to say "I don't have any children"?) we smile and nod when people make insensitive comments, we don't talk about our babies because it upsets people to hear it, we don't add to some threads because we feel like we'd be dismissed because our baby died anyway. We choose to stand up on this issue, to make a noise for a change. We don't need other women trying to put us back in the silence. We won't protect other people's sensibilities by remaining silent on this. Don't like? Tough. We put up with a lot of what you who only have living children have to say, this is our turn.