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Britain's Youngest Boarder

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littledawley · 22/09/2010 21:48

Anyone watching?

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Whocantakeasunrise · 23/09/2010 20:44

So far so good, does not appear to have damaged my dc, and they are recommending it to the younger one, as being a fantastic experience. (And they were 7! Now 14!)

KERALA1 · 23/09/2010 20:50

Anecdotally I have friends and family members seriously damaged by attending boarding school. I am sure for some children it is the right choice and they get alot out of it but not for all. I hope the parents that choose this option do it genuinely with the childs best interests at heart (outgoing sporty confident gregarious child/army family that moves around alot) rather than to take part in the posh version of keeping up with the Joneses. I had a very interesting conversation with a friend of a friend who is a Master at Eton. He admitted that although most thrive some of the children are absolutely not cut out for it but the parents are so anxious for them to be there they ignore the unhappiness. That made me Sad.

carriedababi · 23/09/2010 21:03

so if 2 thirds of britains top jobs go to people from public school and over half of the top jobs go to people from oxbridge.

perhaps thats why john prescotts got a huge chip on his shoulder about being from a working class background, and living a mc lifestyle.

c0rns1lk · 23/09/2010 21:06
carriedababi · 23/09/2010 21:08

oi you bastard!

Grin

you ok?

carriedababi · 23/09/2010 21:23

so corny, got any thoughts or comments on the programme? or did you just pop in to flick me with your towel?

Grin
PanicMode · 23/09/2010 21:39

I've been thinking about this programme a lot over the past 24 hours. My (4) children will be the first in many generations on both sides of our family not to go to private school, let alone boarding school. I can't imagine sending my boys away at 7 (my eldest would be going next year); I know that for my parents it wasn't a choice they made lightly, but being a military family meant that from a very young age, we knew that we would be going to boarding school, as my mother, my father, their parents, grandparents etc had done for generations, and therefore it wasn't weird, it was just what happened, and what all of my friends were doing. In fact, they sent my brother as a day boy to his prep at first, but he BEGGED to board because he was 'missing out on everything'! He suited it, and the school, but obviously it's not for everyone.

My DH wanted to follow his father into the army because he wanted to fly helicopters, but he failed the eyesight tests and so couldn't join the air corps and didn't want to do anything else. We've ended up being in a position that educating four DCs without any allowances (from the military/FO etc) in the private system just isn't possible, and therefore because it was never going to be an option, there has never been an issue about 'preparing' the children to board.

I would educate my DCs privately in a heartbeat if we could - I had an amazing experience and I also think that for all of those people saying they know people who were scarred emotionally etc, boarding schools nowadays are very different places - there is much more contact - email exists for starters! When I went to boarding school we weren't allowed out for the first three weeks of term and were only allowed one phone call home a week (with weekly letter writing on a Sunday). Now there is weekly/flexi boarding and much more contact with the parents.

I thought that the boys came across really well, that the head was a really positive role model and it came across as a lovely, small school. One of my colleagues went to Harrow and is one of the nicest people I know; he visited India as part of a school trip and still donates money and time to an orphanage that he visited, and continues to forge links with. My BIL and his brothers are all OEs and are well adjusted, normal people - it doesn't mess up everyone!

c0rns1lk · 23/09/2010 22:15

sorry carrie just in a wet towel mood Grin

carriedababi · 23/09/2010 22:17

thats ok, i quite enjoyed itGrin

you know i was bending your ear last week whineing dd was having few tears at being left at preschool?

well this wekk not tears

hoorah!Grin

off to legoland tomorrowGrin

CaptainNancy · 24/09/2010 00:23

My father went off to school at 5- it was the norm then for families like his. I don't think it was very healthy though, emotionally, but it was just what one did.
I would never send my children to board, unless they wanted to when they were 16 maybe. I couldn't bear it.

c0rns1lk · 24/09/2010 07:21

good news carrie Grin

fanjolina · 24/09/2010 18:27

attending somewhere like Sunningdale definitely sets them up for life. But at £16k per term you're being creamed for the privelege

BellevilleRendezvous · 24/09/2010 18:33

no £16k per year!! [http://www.sunningdaleschool.co.uk/Admissions/fees.aspx see here]]

BellevilleRendezvous · 24/09/2010 18:34

sorry

fanjolina · 24/09/2010 18:50

Oh, the Times Education Supplement that arrived today stated it's £16k a term! Which seemed an insane amount.

MrsJamin · 24/09/2010 20:18

My dad and his sisters went to boarding school from very young, I think he was about 5/6 - it has scarred them all for life - very sad. It should be forbidden until 11 at least. It is unhealthy for children not to be living in a family environment on a normal day to day basis and leads them to believe that their parents do not want them around. I couldn't bring myself to watch the programme as the idea of 8 year olds at boarding school is abhorrent.

BellevilleRendezvous · 24/09/2010 20:22

that would be insane. more than Eton for a start! (which is almost £30k per year before extras in case you're interested.... why I had to google this I have no idea but then the extras bit is quite amusing - see here - scroll to bottom. Love the bit about billiard tables!

Egg · 24/09/2010 21:40

But I do think my dad is not scarred for life MrsJ. I do agree with other posters that it is not right for everyone, but my dad looks on his schooldays fondly, and is a very kind, generous, fantastic man (have had a beer, so am gushing, but he is great).

Likewise my DH's youngest brother was a boarder from age 8 to 16,17,18 or whenever they finish, and he is a well adjusted, kind and normal man age 35.

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