Have we any other options but to ground him for a few weeks??

[supersec]

We've had problems with my son for the last year - truanting lessons, excluded for cannabis smoking, absolutely no work being done at school.

We came down tough on the cannabis use due to not giving him any or very limited money and it seems to have been working.

He is still constantly pushing the boundaries in other ways - he is 14 (15 in a couple of months) and is allowed out until 10.30 if he goes out on a Friday or Saturday night (11 at a push). He is constantly coming in later and later, he won't answer his phone and only texts with on bus, be home in twenty, be home in 10, be home in 5 etc when he has no intention of coming home. My husband has to usually go out and drag him off the street/house where he is.

It was 12.15 on Friday night and he still wasn't in. My husband had to practically bang down the door of his friend's house and drag him out. He had obviously smoked cannabis. He had £10 off me the day before for a day trip which never materialised and another £7 the night before. We thought we would give him a "break" as he had revised quite a bit during the half term holiday.

He also had new trainers the day before as well which I told him were a luxury, not a necessity, and took off him in light of his behaviour. He won't be getting these back in a hurry.

This is just going to get worse - my husband is getting so worked up every time my son goes out and we get all this crap off him he is going to have a heart attack or get arrested for doing something to him.

I feel we have absolutely no option but to ground him and give him no money until his GCSE exams are over. I know he will hit the roof over this and say there is no point in revising if he can't have anything, but it's got to be done.

It's not acceptable for a 14 year old to be wandering the streets so late at night. It's not even if he is anywhere specific. The problem is a lot of his friends have no boundaries and seem to be able to do what they like.

We want him to have a great life and enjoy himself. He knows he can have what he wants if he behaves but he always chooses the wrong thing to do.

[woopsidaisy]

Em,my sister was the NARKIEST bitch ever! Sorry sis,but you were,lol.

[chocyorange]

are you sure he is off canabis, is it only canabis? sounds to me like he is still using, unfortunatly nothing else will seem important to them except there next spliff ...