I'm asking because we live near to one to the country's "top public schools" who offer scholarships for day pupils from the town.
DH and I had discussed whether we would ever put any of our DC forward for the scholarship, and decided we wouldn't. While we live a comfortable life in a semi in suburbia, with holiday's in Cornwall, we felt surrounding our children with school mates who's parents own several homes, take very nice holidays, and drive very nice cars wouldn't be fair on them. We decided State school, or a nearby independent (where several teenagers from our road attend would be more sensible)
However, a friend who is a single mother, living in a small terraced house in an undesirable part of town, will be sending her DC to this public school in September,(with full scholarship). Her DC was also offered a place at the "outstanding" grammar school.
What do other's think? Will this child have a fabulous education, and not really be bothered that the other student's come from very privileged backgrounds? I asked DS, who is 11, and he said it wouldn't bother him if everybody else came from families with lots more money. (Which is what friend's DC has also said) Do they really understand the implications at 11?
Are DH and I over thinking things?