Has anyone out there not been hated by their teenagers?

[pandemonia]

This is just a cry from a very tired heart. Apparantly I am sick and disgusting and an object of hate and contempt for being angry that the 15 year old spent 24 hours + out this weekend (party/ sleepover/ football/ fA cup watching with friends/ time at girlfriends) and then informed me that he had no time to visit his grandmother today (lives a fair way off and thinks sun shines out of his backside) as he had to revise for GCSE exams next week. Informed me in no uncertain terms that he had planned his weekend and it was his choice and called me the above (audibly on mobile whilst complaining loudly about me to girlfriend).

Am I stupid to feel so hurt and crushed? Or to have tried to insist that he should come with me (he didn't) and to manage his time more reasonably? Or to suggest (and this is the "sick" part) that life isn't actually that much about choices (or usually only difficult ones).

Ds tends to clean his room if theres a girl coming round

LMAO...it was the latest "girlfriend" coming round that caused me to flip!

I am impressed ilove..determination and carpentry

It is odd the things that push their buttons isn't it.

Sure is...he has three much younger siblings, he sure as hell isn't impressed that he has no door to close any more!

Took DH aback as well...he never thought I'd go through with it!

I too have removed bedroom doors, usually after other doors in the house have been repeatedly slammed. It works for my DS who reveres her privacy, sadly we have also had the "wish you were dead" speech. My only advice is to decide on what is important to you, and ignore all the rest, teenagers develop skills in you that you never knew you had, and despite everything they do love you, even if they have a funny way of showing it.

good luck

elmer

i am in the same position but mine is 17 coming 18. Everybody thinks he is lovely but to me, my child is a nightmare. he treats me like shit and speaks to me like he hates me and the same as you, i am totally broken hearted. For 8 years i was a single parent until i met my partner and his children - one in particular has been a very bad influence in which she hates me and is teaching him the same. it got to the point where i nearly split up with my partner because of it on more than one occasion and yet the other children are okay. ive tried reasoning with him, grounding him (he just runs out) and threw him out (knowing that he would go to my sister - who incidentally spoils him and eggs his behaviour on). i cant answer your question but just to let you know im on your side. im not a doormat and for many years, we had a really good relationship although i was strict. we dont see each other much now and as my only child, i cant tell you how it hurts.