Argh...I really am caught in the middle her...dd1 who is 19 has been working in Spain for the past two months - she hates it and wants to come home, whcih is fine by me - she's au pairing and the woman sounds like a nightmare tbh - makes her clean the toilet three or four times without gloves on, insists that cans are alphabetical, allows the children to shout and swear atdd , makes her buy the food with her own money etc. However, she's tried and I feel she has given it her best but really can't take any more. Basically she's asked if she can stay with us for a short while - we have ds1 9 and dd2 4 and three bedrooms. dd2 has just moved into her room, and we seriously don;t have space. DD1 says she will sleep on the sofa but I've suggested we put dd2 back on the bottom bunk with ds for a while. Husband (dd1's stepdad aince she was 6) is going beserk at this. I know that dd's dad won;t have her back as he is a prick. End Of. He also has two dc, but they are particularly special and can't possibly be put out dh is ranting about the disruption it will cause, how she is 'always' causing grief, will never leave etc. dd1 is and always has been a fantastic girl, she doesn't smoke, she is inteligent hardworking, sensible, and has just got herself into a bit of a muddle. We've paid for her to come home next week, but she was intially just coming for the weekend and going back, now though she is really distressed. I am really caught. It will be stressful - we both have difficult jobs and life is pretyy hard as it is, but I know she'll get a job and try her best to move out asap - for a start she is fed up with small children so will hate being around our two , but what do i do? Sorry for the rant, but I am feeling really caught - i want to scream at him 'I hope you won;t treat your 'real' kids like this, but that would be awful, he has always been fabulous with her.... Help!