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DS 13 getting called 'Hitler' Some retorts please?

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christywhisty · 03/12/2008 20:10

DS is in Year 8. He looks a lot older and has inherited his grandad's mediterranean colouring, so as dark hair on his top lip but he is not ready to shave.
In year 7 he was bullied , but he got through it and has no problems from them any more. However they did start calling him 'Hitler' I assume because of the moustache. This 'nickname' has continued with some of the others. I don't think it's said nastily but it still not a nice name and tonight he said it was getting him down.
We need to think of a retort or comeback for him to use.
He said he may talk to his form tutor tomorrow.

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thisisyesterday · 03/12/2008 20:12

i would be v at that and would def have a word with the form tutor. not on at all

I can only presume that they don't have a good understanding of exactly who Hitler is.

morningpaper · 03/12/2008 20:12

why can't he shave? (sorry - I don't know ANYTHING about boys)

Mutt · 03/12/2008 20:13

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Penthesileia · 03/12/2008 20:14

God, kids are cruel. TBH, I don't think there is a safe retort.

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lazymumofteenagesons · 03/12/2008 20:15

Probably not the answer to the name calling, but both my sons shaved their upper lips in year 8 with no problem - doesn't need doing more than once a week.

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:16

I think ignoring it has to be the way, do not give them a reaction, it fuells bullies

why does he not want to shave yet??

sorry I have three girls and the oldest is only nearly 9 so I am clueless

I would be guessing he is 15??

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:18

'fuells bullies' is completely wrong isn't it
you know what I mean
how should it be spelt?

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:19

fuels bullys??
thats better

isn't it

I'm ill be kind to me

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:20

have I killed this thread?

sorry, I'll go

do I smell?

morningpaper · 03/12/2008 20:24

what's that smell?

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:41
PurplePillowsInSantasBed · 03/12/2008 20:44

Roffle mp

No you don't smell Trinity (well no worse than me)

Aitch · 03/12/2008 20:44

wouldn't most boys of 13 be thrilled to shave? i'd have thought that would really piss off his pals tbh, that he was so physically mature he needed to start shaving early. it probably all stems from their jealousy of same, i'd have thought.

by the way, what is that smell?

southeastastra · 03/12/2008 20:46

i'd tell him to ignore or snarl at them. ds(15) has bumfluff moustache, the hair is so fine though, seems a shame to start raking it off

TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 20:49
DoubleBluff · 03/12/2008 21:04

something like ' at least i could shave if i neede to, let me know when you are ready.'

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christywhisty · 03/12/2008 21:06

sniff sniff, can't smell anything I've got a cold.
He is just 13 Trinity but he looks like a 15 yr old, in 15/16 yr old/adult clothes and size 9 shoes, but he is still my baby boy.

He doesn't really seem bothered about wanting to shave. I did suggest to DH the other day we get him some sort of razor for christmas but we decided against it and dh will take him out to buy one. I am sure he will use it when he is ready.
If he doesn't talk to his tutor then i will email him.

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christywhisty · 03/12/2008 21:08

It is only bumfluff sotheastastra but because he so dark it notices far more than it would if he was fair.

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TrinityRhino · 03/12/2008 21:09

sounds like a good plan
but I would really say that ignoring is best

GrandmasSoup · 04/12/2008 12:25

There was a kid who got christened Hitler at our school. He too had dark hair and a tasche. He used to laugh along, I don't think it's a big issue if he isn't that bothered by it, they could be calling him worse names.

stillstanding · 04/12/2008 12:32

How cruel is that? So sorry this is happening to you and DS, christy.

I think ignoring would be best and hopefully it will pass. I know it is tempting but (unless it escalates) I would try to avoid going to the tutor at this stage as it could be counterproductive and prolong the whole thing.

solo · 04/12/2008 12:41

Ignoring name calling does not, IME stop it. I went through it from start to finish at secondary school...It wasn't nice and was as nasty as 'Hitler'.

mumblechum · 04/12/2008 12:43

I agree name calling doesn't stop when ignored.

What's the form tutor actually going to do? Potentially it could get worse.

I'd get him a razor if I were you.

Could be an excuse to get him some tasteful aftershave at the same time, if you're a fellow Lynx victim

frogs · 04/12/2008 12:45

"Are you jealous cos your top lip is still as soft and smooth as a baby's bum?" should do the trick.

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