What would you do if your 13 year old daughter came home in an ambulance having

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drunk a bottle of vodka, been sick and wet herself?

all the kids were drinking

all the kids were drinking

How late was it?

I have ds14 and he hasn't tried this yet but I know it is very common especially with the girls . All parents at school were sent a letter from the police stating how every weekend they were dealing with drunken teenagers and some Y8s. They are now going to contact the parents of those found drunk and get them to come to the scene to collect them and see exactly what is happening.

I think I'd shout a lot and then hit the vodka myself!

Seriously, would hope she had the mother of all hangovers. Once she was feeling better, would talk it all through, and give very clear instructions about the future. I would probably ground for a good while to get the point across.

hmm .tbh I would clean her up.. put her to bed and keep an eye on her.

however in the morning.. she would wake up to me clattering about.. making a fry up.. and then be made to sit and talk to me.. particularly about the waste of resourse and what she could do to help raise some funds for the amblance service.. whilst writing them a letter saying sorry.

I would then.. find out who supplied the vodka.. and take it from there.. oh yes she would also be grounded.

I have a ds the same age and luckily he hasn't done this yet.. But I am sure at some point he will.

13 is Very Very Young. How did she come to be unsupervised to such a degree that she could down a bottle of vodka without anyone noticing?

I usually think of myself as an almost recklessly laidback parent, but short shopping trips into town in the daytime is about as far as I'd be willing stretch for this age group(only a year older than dd ). Or a sleepover with parents I trust and whom I would blow up if anything like this happened.

Not saying I didn't occasionally live dangerously in my young days, but 13 really is too young. The sheer lack of physical development must make heavy drinking incredibly dangerous at this age.

I would be very angry with her. But make sure she is Ok and then talk to her why drinking a bottle of vodka is dangerous.
What time did this happen?

Where were the adults who were supposed to be in charge? Am assuming that noone would let their 13yo dd go out to a party without ascertaining that there would be responsible adults around.

she was at a birthday bash for a girl who was a year older.

I don't want to put too many details about it as you never know who is reading!

She is very upset, and feeling rough.

Thanks for all your support

There were adults

I would be tempted to take a video of her and the state she was in, then put her to bed, make sure she couldn't choke if she were sick again, and then wait til she wakes up.

The let her clean herself and her bed up, and then show her the video and ask her what she thinks.

If there were adults at the party then they should have made sure that she didn't any alcohol.let alone a whole bottle of vodka. you said the birthday bash was for a girl a year older. That means the birthday girl was 14 so there should not have been any alcohol. I would have a word with the adults running the party and let them know it was anacceptable to let your daughter drink alcohol.

i agree 13 is too young, but i always tell mine - ring me, it doesnt matter what you have or haven;t done the fact that you are safe is THE most important thing... anythng else we discuss later

i like your words custardo

i've only skimmed this thread but actually did this myself at thirteen (i'm 30 now)......my mum gave me the biggest bollocking of my life and i was grounded for a year - she stuck to it. that certainly taught me a lesson. I have no doubt she gave me a lecture as suggested by several posters but the only thing i actually remember her saying is "i don't know what you've got to laugh about'. definately go with the grounding.

and also wanted to say - i only drank about a quarter of a small bottle of voddy....i think your daughter would have perhaps been more seriously ill if a whole bottle been consumed. with my history as a wild child i will also say if a thirteen year old wants to get pissed they will find a way. there may have been adults there but the adults were surely not accomanying them to the toilet? they perhaps naively assumed no one would be bringing alcohol and so weren't looking for the signs.

might seek legal council re adults running party,

no, adults were not aware of drink until it was too late and they acted immediatly when child collapsed. They all went outside and drank (some more than others!)

Take a photo for when she feels better.
Wash her up and roll her into bed in the recovery position with a bucket beside her and a bottle of water.
Keep manky clothes for her to wash.
Wait until the hangover passes then give her hell for being so stupid.
Threaten to show all her friends and potential boyfriends photo/have it printed in local newspaper or Daily Mail if she does it again.

Have you paid for this posting, Rachel2? There's a specific place for media requests, and a fee of £30 I believe to be paid.

MN deserves the revenue for providing you access to a story don't you think?

Is Rachel at it again?

Is she a repeat offender, georgiemum?

I did see her somewhere else on MN today. Same ad.
Naughty girl.