What would you do if your 13 year old daughter came home in an ambulance having

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drunk a bottle of vodka, been sick and wet herself?

it isnt recommended protocol but if she had wet herself and thrown up, a police car wouldnt be suitable to transport her home him and so the ambulance crew might have thought it woulod save time and effort to take her home rather than into A nad E, if she was underage they couldnt just leave her on the street could they?

a waste of resources, yes but tbh i would rather a young girl was looked after than some fools that call ambulances for a headache etc.

I did exactly this at the age of 13, i wasn't brought home in an ambulance but by my father who found me dumped at the side of the road my my so called 'friends' at the time.

My parents called an ambulance when they got me home thoug becuase i kept choking on my own vomit and since i couldn't speak/walk/ they didn't know if it was drugs/drink or something else.

I don't get hangovers so didn't suffer that one but was made to wash my clothes/bedding/carpet of sick and urine where i had thrown up and wet myself alot.
Then i was grounded for 1 month.

I can honestly say i have never been 'drunk' since, i have got tipsy on a few occasiions but will never allow myself to be fully drunk again becuase even 8yrs later i still can't remeber what happened that night (after drinking the litre of vodka) and that is scary to me.

I also don't ever drink vodla as still to this day the smell of it makes me nausious.

i think either taking her to a and e or police involvement is technically the correct thing

police frequently have puke and wee in their vehicles

there should be a no passengers rule in ambulances and afaik there is

By the way, in my case.

It was my then boyfriend (who i wasn't suppoed to be seeing) who supplied the vodka, i don;t know when it come from, and i drunk it to impress him and his mates

policemen often refuse people in such a state in the vehicles here as it takes the vehickle of thhe road for that night to be cleaned

I was tiny and prepubertal at 13 pamina and would have struggled to pass for double figures (perks up at thought that ds and dd are dots and are possibly going to take after me, and be challenged for age in pubs til they are 30...)
Like you, mildly woozy on cider was all I ever managed - until I was an "adult" away at university, that is. Times change.
Beety, are you OK? Not what you need right now XXX

I would be seriously angry with her!
13 years old? That is way too young.
If you can think of something she really likes and would miss, then I would withdraw it from her for a month as punishment and give her a serious talk.

i collected my 13 year old dd from the police station in the same cirumstances and went to see the parents of the boy he supplied the vodka

he had left the scene

we agreed they wouldnt be seeing each other socially in future...he didnt want to encounter me again tbh

it could go eeither way she may never do anything like it again or it may become an ongoing issue

i exdperienced the latter and it is not nice

thank god it is not mine! dd is only 9!

god daughter

Good idea about a and e
and letter to ambulanxce crew

13 is way to young

lolol at not yours

phew

anyway in answer to the op I would be convinced that dd would grow up to be an alcoholic, that my strict attitude to alcohol had backfired and that it ws ASLL MY FAULT

use the ambulances are there for people who are really need them

how if someoner has a heart attack or traumatic injury there is a window of opportunity in which they need that emergency care

on the alcohol,front her brain is developing and she could suffer brain damage or even death

explain the difference between drinking spirits and the slower more manageable effects of lager or wine and fizzy water

with vodka you go from ok to paralytic

she has problems doesnt she you have posted about her before

I did a similar thing when I was that age. My parents decided that the mortification and humiliation and hangiver were punishment enough. They were right. I still flush hot thinking about it.

i think her parents nee to take the view that she will continue to do this kind of thing and needs help

that is based on the facgt you have said she has problems before

they need strategies for themselves and to try and mitigate the effects of the path she is taking

hopimng it is a one off and punishment in itself wont ework ime

think they are thinking it is a one off

have suggested a few things from this thread - just thope they will dosomething

i think they should not think in their own minds it is a one off

or they will end up going through her teenage years always reactive

yhey need to be proactive

they need to find out whether she is in a culture or she is extreme in her peer group

I will ask them zippi.

think at moment it is very much them thinking it is a none of f and they are not doing anything.

well it may be

but hoping it is is not the right approach

I got very drunk at 13 on a bottle of sherry
I did manage to get home on my own but I was very very sick and felt dreadful the next day
My mothers punishment was to invite some close family around , including my grandmother and play loud music and make me phone my dad and explain to him what I had done . I was suitably mortified and the only time I have ever come close to getting drunk again was on my 21st . (I am now 37)

I do drink but stop at slightly tipsy

Haven't read whole thread...
I would not help her wash. I would put her to bed in a dirty state and let her wake up like that. I would make her clean up any vomit she produced.
I would make lots of noise to make her hangover worse.

Sister-IL is a terrible mother in many respects, but that's what she did when her DD1 came home pissed (about age 17). Niece has NEVER got drunk since.

that is the cultural context isnt it

but ime in that kind of group there are usually one or two people who do have problems and behave more extremely get depressed get more injuries and end up more confused than the majority who breeze trhough