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EPIC!!!really want to beat his face in with large item..... i am thinking,.......brick.....no! breeze block.......or similar

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Tortington · 30/09/2008 09:45

ds was fired from butlins in august - the parties were too much temptation . I was a little dissapointed that he has to move back home - but hey ho. i told him he must get a job. He fucked aroungfor two weeks then got a job working 2 hours a day

He has had this job for about a month or so.

keep reading it gets better

His gf left her job in a shop to follow him to butlins where they set up together - you can get couples accom apparently. so they did. That left her at butlins -a nd i am then told that her mum wont let her go back home now she has moved out - so she keeps travelling back and forth - unble to leave

I offer for her to stay here on a few conditions - one was that this was a view to getting a bedsit with ds and moving out.

fast forward. ds and i are so alike -we can't even talk to each other without shouting. - i can communicate v. effectivley with the twins - but i just want to punch his head in.

yesterday, he didn't get up for work - he has to get up for his 2 hour job at 6am. other ds says " why is J still in bed ?" I get the wins off to school and then shout him - the phone goes - i am in the bathroon - trying to get ready for work myself - the answerimachine kicks in - its his boss.

I shout him again and chuck the phone on the upstairs landing whilst i go into bathroon - i am now fuming - the morning not the best time to talk to me even about nice things. I come out the phone is gone, but lazy arse little shit bag still in bed with his GF

His GF who got her old retail job back and is defering her (crappy)[ooh bitchy] university placement - becuase she wants to set uphouse with J ( prob get pregnant and have poor lives arguing)

The gf stays in the shop job for one week - j and her have a row - whilst the rest of the family were playing a lovely game of rounders and having BBQ on beach. she comes back - she punched a tree

punched a treee

punched a fucking tree. clampit

OMG CLAMPIT, the she proceeds to tell me the details of the row - about their sex life.

I AM HIS MOTHER!!!!

She broke a bone in her hand and i dropped her off at casualty - i dont do sympathy at the best of times and i certainly was not entertaining some silly fucking bitch who had punched a tree.

and i literally dropped her and drove off and came back for her later.

so she is on limited work - and can't claim sick.

i have asked dh to help me deal with this - he doesn't mind being the bad bastard - i have begged him - dh and i both know that when this thing blows - moby dick will have nothing on this fucker.

bear in mind - everyone has chores. his are to tidy the kitchen and bathroom daily.

and yesterday morning it did blow up - lazy shit still in bed with his gf

i called him and called him until he got up and then we had an almighty row.

i can't even talk to him. i know hes a man - and therefore sublteness is lost on him - i dont give a shit - i can't talk to him.

i am the reason he has no friends apparently.

me - becuase i grounded him when he was 15 for all of his younger teenager life

it had nothing to do with being in a serious realtionship at that early age and spending all your time across in the next town did it? huh? ooooh no.

the things i have done - the opportunities i have tried to create.

i gave him £200 driving lessons. the driving instructor someone i knew through work.

once the money was up - he carried on and fell behind with the payments- cancelled the lessons at the last minute and generally made himself and us to look like utter utter wankers.

i have previously told them i want them out for january - this is like saying - pull your finger out - your not plebbing on me forever with your gf.

and now i have a day off - and all i can think off is that HE can come back and they ae now asleep together. plebbing lazy pair of shits.

i want to bet him with a large brick.

i'd ask AIBU, but i dont give a shit if i am

what should i use? nrock or breeze block?

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CherryChapstick · 30/09/2008 10:14

FFS!
This is really too much for you!
Go out, cool down, come back in an hour when it is over, then talk.
Go on, see ya later!

3littlefrogs · 30/09/2008 10:15

There is definitely no reason why you should have the GF in your home unless she is paying rent.

stleger · 30/09/2008 10:16

Don't bother hitting him with a bag of organic carrots. I did that last week and they all broke, non organic might be stronger?

Original poster
Tortington · 30/09/2008 10:19

yeah yer right cherry

i am going to get dressed and go shopping

just screamed at them both

" why dont you get a job and fuck off out the house - with your fucking domestics am sick of it"

think i need to go now

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Original poster
Tortington · 30/09/2008 10:19

lol st leger - no organic carrots - got it

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PenelopePitstops · 30/09/2008 10:20

get them to pay rent and make it higher than if they moved out!

I think i'd feel a bit if my mum tld me to leave home at 19 though, does he know this has been coming?

GF sounds odd, if they are arguiung now then they can't live together

CherryChapstick · 30/09/2008 10:21

Off you fuck then!

DaisySteiner · 30/09/2008 10:25

I would get rid of the girlfriend IMMEDIATELY. You might find things improve with her out of the way, and at least you won't have to put up with them arguing and being lazy arses.

ranting · 30/09/2008 10:27

Well my mum kicked me out at the age of 17 and it was the making of me PP, she did me a huge favour.

Yes he has to pay rent, no you can't subsisdise his life style and you need to calmly tell him so, think PeanutButter said it far more elegantly than me though.

noddyholder · 30/09/2008 10:29

I have a gun

EachPeachPearMum · 30/09/2008 10:39

Why are you letting her live there? She really isn't your responsibility, and is obviously contributing to his moods/demeanor.

If he isn't in education, he should be making a financial contribution to the household- even if it is a token one.

Nothing but symapthy really custy- no idea how I would be able to deal with it.

I know you don't like her, but PLEASE don't call her a clampitt- it is very horrible to be on the receiving end

noddyholder · 30/09/2008 10:42

whats a clampitt?

NomDePlume · 30/09/2008 10:44

Penelope, he is taking the piss though. It's not like he is pulling his weight and custy is being the evil mother kicking him out on his ear and leaving him all alone ! He is doing feck all, paying feck all and expecting to get away with it indefinitely !

ranting · 30/09/2008 10:44

Thank fuck for that, though I was the only one who didn't know what a clampitt was.

Yes, what is a clampitt?

NomDePlume · 30/09/2008 10:46

I remember the clampits as like the hillbillies. It was tv prog

NomDePlume · 30/09/2008 10:46

they were basically a bunch of rednecks.

noddyholder · 30/09/2008 10:49

I think girl should go and ds should stay It might focus him on what he wants to do with his life They are a bit young for all this and when she goes to uni it will be over anyway.Also will set the bench mark for the twins who seem really sweet now so don't want them to get the wrong idea.What do her parents think?

Penthesileia · 30/09/2008 10:49

What do he and gf argue about? Perhaps she is trying to get him motivated? Could you get her on your side? Sounds like he's used to blocking you out, so maybe he'd listen to her?

YANBU though. I would never have dreamed of treating my dad (I say dad, as lost my mum when I was young) like this. And he's definitely old enough to know better. That said, my dad rarely yelled at us: silent & deadly was way more effective. Could you try that?

3littlefrogs · 30/09/2008 10:52

Gf should definitely go. If he wants to see her he can see her elsewhere. Her parents must think it is great that you are willing to give her a free home. I would put them straight if I were you.

EachPeachPearMum · 30/09/2008 10:53

I come from the same place as custy and it basically means tramp- as in poor, destitute, scruffy looking, not whoreish. I have had it directed at me as a child- it is not a good feeling.

PenelopePitstops · 30/09/2008 11:02

i know he's being a tit and should be paying rent and treating custy with more respect. BUt i would be a bit spooked by the idea of moving out properly so young. moving to uni is different, you are only halfway there. Does he know where to start and what to do?

Get rid of GF, there are places she can go.

Saturn74 · 30/09/2008 11:03

Ooh custy, you are toooooo kind and generous, imo.

I'd be phoning the GF's mother and telling her that you've given her until Saturday to find somewhere to live.

Let her mother help her find somewhere else, or take her back in at her house.

All the tree punching, tantrums and arguments in my own home would drive me insane.

Your DS is a different matter - but I really wouldn't put up with teenage angst from someone else's child as well - especially when they seem to have effectively washed their hands of her.

ranting · 30/09/2008 11:07

Trust me, if he suddenly has nowhere to live, he will find somewhere to live, even if it is a youth hostel. He is relying on Custy not kicking him out to behave like this. If he has a set date to be out and he knows she means it, then he'll find somewhere. Necessity is the mother of invention.

Flower3554 · 30/09/2008 11:17

You have my utmost sympathies and I can relate to every word you say.

Our Ds now 29 years oldtells us that the reason his life is bollocks is because he never got to go abroad on school trips like his sisters did. WTF!!! he never went to school, well he went in, got his mark, then out the back door.

He never brought home letters from school about trips etc but its still our fault

Don't forget to wear gloves, fingerprints you know

CherryChapstick · 30/09/2008 12:09

And you take that from a 29 year old, Flower? Bloody hell, I am 35, just 6 years older than him. He should be ashamed.