I don't want to be the household waker upper every morning

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Why is that my job? I do enough!!

How do you train your teens to just wake themselves up in the morning and get up?

I don't want to be the entire household's official waker up every weekday morning.

They're good kids and they do get up when I call them, but I want them to get up when their alarm goes off. I can be the emergency back-up if I notice someone has actually overslept.

I get myself up and out. How do I get them to just fricken wake up and get up without that being an extra job for me every morning?

I feel the same, OP. My older DS just sleeps through his alarms, even though he sets multiple. It drives me bonkers. I’m going to try and help him find a solution over the next few weeks before he starts 6th form. Not sure what that’s going to be, though!

I think at teenage age, you can put it as you have here- this is for you, a short window of time just for you. And you expect them to support that for you.

What you say here suggests that you may be making your own cage here from guilt: no criticism, I do the same, but I can’t solve it without acknowledging it.

Learning to get up on time is an adult skill.

If “kindness” is your concern, consider whether it is kind not to have taught them this particular skill.

Given you post about being in charge of “everything” it might be a good idea to consider what else you are doing for them that you shouldn’t be.

Let him face the consequences of being late.

Mine have always just got themselves up ,,I've not trained them . My 14 year is always first up with his phone alarm before me even then I get up and sort my 7 yr old and 6 yr old I hear the door bang at 7.50 and that's 14 and 15 yr old gone sometimes I don't even see them esp the 15yr old .

As a added I also have a 23 yr old whonwas a nightmare at that age trying to wrestle a 15nyr old cadet out of bed was ridiculous,,,he's now in the army and is extremely self sufficient so swings and roundabouts 👍