15 year old son out at 3am with mates?

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My very well behaved 15 year old wants to go out with his mates at 3am. He’s a good kid, polite helpful, easy going very reasonable he knows right from wrong. I’m not comfortable with it at all. I’ve not met his mates I believe 3 of them will be going. Apparently they will be walking round and stuff! We live semi rural town im not saying completely safe as things do happen. Am I being unreasonable to say no? Help!

Really my parents would have gone mental if I'd been out at 3am at 15. Don't think they would have been to keen even at 18.

It would be a no from me. They just tent to hang around and get into trouble.

Are you stupid? Or trolling? Of course you don’t let a teen go out at midnight. That’s time to be back not going out. It’s fairly obvious they’ll be doing dangerous and / or illegal stuff.

Absolutely not.

Summer solstice sunrise was about 4:20.

there’s a fair few organisations that do solstice sunrise swims/paddles etc.

3am is definitely still night time.

There are teenagers around here causing chaos in the middle of the night and we are cursing their shitty parents to be honest.

Naive to think this is innocent fun because he’s well behaved. No teenager is going out for innocent fun at 3am.

I was out clubbing or raving at that age but my parents had they known would absolutely not have approved. If they’d found out I think I’d still be grounded now at 45!
I’d need to know a lot more about what was going on to even consider it. I have always tried to compromise with my teens, but I feel I’d be struggling to find reason to compromise for just lurking about the streets at 3am.

I imagine if for whatever reason he was observed and the police came you could soon be receiving a visit from a child protection social worker and risk him being removed from your care, if you knowingly allowed him out at that time. A massive no from me.

Then these may not be a great bunch for him to hang around with.
Anyway, it doesn't matter what their parents allow.

Whenever a crime occurs, its caught on camera, and shows youths, in gangs, I automatically think rightly or wrongly..where are the parents of the kids out at that time of night ?
I think there is an assumption that they'll be up to no good. As I said, rightly or wrongly, but just why would they put them in a situation where they could be accused of wrong doings.
Thats why it would be a no from me.

I’d be asking exactly what they need to do at midnight or 3am that they can’t go do at 6pm, sounds like up to no good at the very least not to mention safety

Don’t be ridiculous

Are we talking just turned 15 or a summer born who has completed gcse exams and is almost 16? All of ds's group were out until 6am after their prom. Some were still 15 at that time.

Nope, they did not. I was clubbing from age 13. No fucking way for my kid.

What would you say if the Police picked them up?

I’ve said no , obviously I’m now getting the reasonings from him I’ve said about the illegal stuff the dangers the weirdos the shit people get up to. That I’m not comfortable a for him to go at that time .

Definitely not. Kids get caught up in alsorts at that time. Police lift kids out at that time and bring them home. No need for anyone just to be wandering the streets at 3am

I had very relaxed parents and could say I was going for a sleepover and actually go wandering around without my parents checking, but to actually say I’m going out at 3am would be absolutely no way. Unless it’s for the whole night camping or up to see the sunrise or a specific reason, I don’t think many decent parents would be okay with that.

I was picked up by police about 14 when out around 1.30am. I actually tried to refuse the lift they offered me (walking next to a very large forest area) but they didn't give me a choice in the end. I would be arrested for being drunk and disorderly or I took their lift (I doubt they would of actually arrested me but I had been drinking)
I always thought they were just assuming I was up to no good, rather than saving me from anyone else who was up to no good.
I would not let my children be out at this time of night, there's no good reason for it and non of the usual safety nets.

Absolutely not. I think 10.30 curfew is very generous at 15.

Not a chance in hell I would be agreeing to this. 3am ? Nothing good will come
out of this and you are likely to get police knocking at your door bringing him home if they see three 15 year olds walking around in the middle of the night.