15 year old son out at 3am with mates?

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My very well behaved 15 year old wants to go out with his mates at 3am. He’s a good kid, polite helpful, easy going very reasonable he knows right from wrong. I’m not comfortable with it at all. I’ve not met his mates I believe 3 of them will be going. Apparently they will be walking round and stuff! We live semi rural town im not saying completely safe as things do happen. Am I being unreasonable to say no? Help!

Why 3am specifically? Why can’t they do this at 7pm?

It's good that he has told you, rather than just sneaking out. How streetwise/ resourceful/ independent is he?

My 15 (almost 16) year old needs to be home by 11.30pm unless doing something specific like a sleepover. I wouldn't allow 'wandering around' at 3am.

That's a very particular time to be socialising....🤔

Sorry, not a request to stay out until 3am but to get up and go out at 3am?

never heard of this before

What on earth are 15 year olds doing at 3am? That would be a no from me.

He wants to literally ‘go out’ at 3am? What’s he doing until then? It’ll be nice and cool I guess

Going out at 3am? Are they just wanting hang out then because it’s cooler? There will be a reason behind going out at 3am

Absolutely not. Nothing but mischief to be had at that time of the morning.

Er, no.

I have a 15 year old son just like yours! It would be a no! There’s no reason for a 15 year old to be out walking round at 3am! If there was a specific and safe reason that could only be accomplished at 3am I’d maybe consider it but not just for this!

Why did he phrase it like that? Why not just say you're staying at a mate's house if you are going to wander around in the middle of the night? And what on earth for?

I mean I get it of he went to a party at someone's house and then foolishly left at 3am, but not to actually go out at that time?!

im not sure why 3am , he’s now said midnight he’s a clever kid streetwise hmm I’m not entirely sure he just seems to get on with everyone.

We would have thought nothing of it when we were 15 (millennials), but my understanding is that Generation Alpha are more mollycoddled and generally spend less time outside, so I’d worry they’re not street smart or resourceful enough.

Why 3am specifically?

Absolutely not there is no reason whatsoever for a 15 year old to be out at 3am I would be very suprised if the other parents said yes to this

What - your parents didn't care if you were out at 3am at age 15?

Definitely not unreasonable. 15 is too young to be out at that time.

There is no way on earth that my parents would have let me go out and wander round at 3am in the late 90s 😂

Mollycoddled letting a 15 year old just wander the streets at 3am for no reason is just shit parenting no matter what generation you're from

er I was a teen in the Dark Ages and my parents believed in kicking me out at the start of the day so I could play all day and even they would have had things to say had I been out at 3am.

(I did once sneak back into the house at 5am after sleeping at mates house when a party went on too long but I think I got away with it)

Even if you're son and his mates are houlier than thou they could run into miscreants at that time in the morning with bad intent.
Nope he shouldn't be wandering about at 3am

Apparently the 2 mates do it all the time, and their parents don’t mind 😱

I remember my teens begging to be out at crazy hours for pokemon go. Unless there is a reason my answer would be no.

Tell him you will message their parents to ask because I guarantee he's full of shit

I know of a few teens who got up and went out a few days ago to watch the summer solstice sunrise from the beach but we’re coastal, lots of them are surfers and outdoorsy so often up and out very early doors and it was literally just something different and harmless to do.

’Just wandering about’ doesn’t sound like that though.