Feel sad for the August teens missing out on socials (last to turn 18).

[Bellini12]

DD is a mid to late August birthday. Most of her friends are turning 18 now and so are enjoying trips to the pub and some have gone clubbing. She of course has to stay at home. Things will slow down for a while during exams but by mid June most will be out all the time pubbing & clubbing.

Yes her time will come, but the pubs are extremely strict near us (check and scan ID at the door) and there’s no sneaking in even if she stuck with a soft drinks.

She won’t even be 18 on A level results day so can’t join in (hopefully) celebrating and I know it will feel like torture.

Just wondered if anyone else has this scenario with their DC and how they are handling it?

I was a late summer born but in our day you could hide at the back of the pub and no one asked!

Fake ID is apparently a) rubbish quality b) easy to get scammed and c) expensive! Not my domain!

I also wish there was a better system to make it fair… cut off dates are always harsh on the summer born kids. Eg they are allowed in the pub but can’t drink alcohol with strict consequences if caught. She’s going to miss out on so many social opportunities.

What about older sisters of friends? You don’t have to look a lot like someone tbh. The photo is black and white and tiny. So as long as the hair and face shape is somewhat similar in texture / colour, nothing else matters. No one can see eye colour for example.

You don’t get actual fake id you borrow real id from slightly older teens in your network. Can’t believe any self respecting teen doesn’t know this?! There’s a trick they do that I’m not posting on here but any vaguely streetwise teen should be able to figure out!

Mate. So agree.

In Scotland school years ran 1st March birthday to 28/29frbryaty. I was almost a full year older than one of our friends. We did the sneaking in but it was the 90’s so easier and she was tall and looked older. We also did a lot of age appropriate cinema nights, bowling etc. The two oldest of us would sometimes meet for the pub.

Her sisters ID is the obvious one to borrow. It doesn't matter if they don't look alike. Drivers licenses are tiny and black and white.

Her sister could even apply for a new driving license (after losing the old one) so they both have ID.

If sis really won't share (mean) then she should ask the new friend. If they are both out they can do passport and drivers license

This. Quite mean of the older sister not to give her younger sister her ID.

Sorry if already suggested, have only read OPs posts, but for results day, strawberry and prosecco picnic!! So much nicer than spoons! Suggest she tell her friends from me that that's what the cool kids do at uni, which is true, it's both nicer and cheaper and feels so much more celebratory than boring old spoons.

& I suggest you provide the logistics of turning up with the key ingredients. In the (I'd say unlikely) event that her friends do turn down the lovely picnic, you have it with her instead.

Ha ha! Not being a streetwise teen I can only presume this involves going into the venue then sneaking the ID out via someone else/other means. maybe they will try this method - but not sure she wants to run the risk in case it doesn’t work and she’s left outside on her Tod (esp as won’t be local).

Also think it is a big ask to get the similar looking friend (only a new friend so not really close) to ask her to bring her passport out so DD can borrow the other ID.

Im giving this way too much thought as ultimately it’s not my problem to solve! I just have sympathy for her.

Yes older sister is being a bit mean 😂

But to be fair they don’t look too similar (different face shapes/hair). She needs the ID for herself and is scared of it being rumbled and then her ID confiscated.

Plus I think people don’t realise how strict some of these establishments are! Eg both the Spoons and lively pub with DJ in local town scan the ID and blow it up (this is older DD’s experience who looks young so they always spend longer analysing her ID - not joking!)

No sneaking in or out of a venue won’t work. A pp has posted the trick a few posts up. You need a friend in the year above or older sister. If they are summer born lots of their autumn born mates should be already 18 so can’t one of them do it?

I’m not going to get remotely involved in logistics! Maybe they will figure something out. Maybe she will be a fed up teen watching her mates go pubbing and clubbing without her (already happening although slowed down due to exams). You can say ‘where there’s a will, there’s a way’ but not always the case if establishments are uber strict. Plus it’s a relatively new friendship group so unless someone offers, she’s not going to be suggesting the 18 year olds use their older sister’s ID (if they even have one) instead so she can have theirs.

The rules suck for what is essentially semantics. They are all living the same experiences. I wish it was like parts of Europe (Germany?) where older teens can drink beer/cider responsibly but not spirits.