Son won’t go to school in the mornings

[MyLittlePoniess]

My son won’t get up or go to school in the mornings without being constantly nagged, it’s affecting everything, making me late for school with my other kids and making me
late for work. Has anyone been in this situation? I’m at the end of my tether

Or just stop commenting on it? Why comment hours later? Mumsnet dont delete threads because you ask them to. Just stop commenting.

Like why comment 3 hours after my last comment not like it kept being bumped up, you chose to comment again after 3 hours to bring it back to the top again sad 🙄

They do. I thought I made a helpful suggestion. Delete it, or I’m assuming you like arguing!

Would a chat about his future work? Literally take him off for a day on his own, maybe a drive so he can talk without eye contact.
He must have some idea of what he wants. He can't leave school til he's 16 and has an apprenticeship to go to or whatever. But he won't get a job without maths and english.
Is he bored? Is he too clever? Is he struggling?
Does he really understand that he can't stay at home unemployed while you look after him?
Does he have money or toys that would pay the fine? Maybe a financial loss like that would make him understand it's not a tenable situation.

Agreed. I consider myself a good parent, but have asked for help with various aspects of parenting one of my 3 children. I ask for help and advice on other things, so why not parenting?

If this is persistent, and has ben the same through primary, I would be approaching the school and asking for advice and signposting. If it is anxiety or whatever, that should be treated as a genuine need, a medical issue that he receives help with.

How is he when he is at school? Does he have friends? Behave OK in class? Do sports? Get appropriate grades?

Boosting self-esteem through a sport or activity outside of school may help, too... what else does he do?

I would echo what others have said regarding EBSA and possible SEN. EBSA often starts like this, but can quickly spiral if they are consistently forced. There are support groups you can find online where there is loads of helpful information on what you can do, including about the threat of fines.

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Op you can ask for the thread to be removed if it's really bothering you. In some cases mumsnet will do that if you explain your reasoning. Some people just read the headline and will comment in good faith without reading your updates so they won't know you don't want them to post.

No they don’t, I’ve asked for s post to be removed before because I was outed in real life and they refused to remove it, people that think mumsnet remove threads just because you ask them have clearly never asked, if they allowed that you would just be able to delete the thread yourself.

I think ChatGPT is having a tantrum.

I've asked and had threads removed before...

I have had this with my son throughout his teenage years he is 17 now. I feel your frustration. School are aware. He doesn’t sleep well and then is exhausted in the morning. He has never been a good sleeper, even as a baby. Now he is over 16, if he misses the bus he has to get himself an uber at his own expense. He does this at least three times a week and has never learned a lesson, but at least we have our sanity and can get his brother to school on time.
School are working with me, and if he is late 3x a week he gets a detention. We have tried rewards but they work for short spells.
My younger son has a lunar clock that brings in light gently to his room at a set time. This helps him to wake. The 17 yo insists on using his regular alarm, but even then he procrastinates and has time blindness in the morning and this sets him back. I have found that we have better days when everything is organised the night before, but this is inconsistent and often he leaves things to the last minute.

If you’re not looking for help after all, that’s fine, but there’s no need to be impolite. I have some experience and was offering support.

This is my teen and he’s still like it at 17 going college sorry to say. Accept he doesn’t like school, and accept this is always going to be difficult. He probably will never be that kid that jumps out of bed to go to school (I have one of them too). You have to sit down him and get in his wavelength to say you get you get he doesn’t like school but it’s just something he has to get through. Reward with positive language and small rewards if he does go to school. It’s tough but you need to be tough but also understanding.