He came to stay for the weekend. It was agreed with the placement. Everything went well, I really enjoyed the weekend with him until he had to leave. He'd sold something on my ebay account and demanded the money back. I told him that the care home manager told me that he can't have a bank account for anything other than savings yet nor can he have cash used unmonitored (yes- I've considered that he's buying illegal substances but I'm almost certainly sure that this isn't what he's doing, they think the same).
He spat on me three times. He tore two of my books of our faith, one belonged to my late sister. He knows this. He told me he hated my people and faith, that I'm a whore ect ect and that he's not leaving without his money. He said I was lucky that he hadn't slapped me and broke my plant pot.
One of the staff at his placement came, and he willingly went with her But I was seriously scared, I have a younger daughter in the house, she saw how my ex husband used to treat me and I'm scared that my son will remind her of him. He was doing good there. He started college recently but is now saying he's dropping out today. Theyve called me this morning telling me he isn't speaking or responding to anything they're saying. Usually they give me more detail but theres none here.
We are in family therapy and we've had rough patches that we're healing. Last month he implied that he may have been sexually abused as a child (I was fully unaware) and that he has nightmares over that- not just the disagreements in our relationship. He's had referrals and he was arrested a few months ago for hate speech but this is the first time he has gone back to his previous behaviour. I imagine him as a man and I don't think he'll be anything other than an abuser like my exhusband. I'm not sure where I went so wrong.