16 year old son was honey trapped

[Mumma331]

As the title suggests, my 16 year old son was honey trapped by his girlfriend.

they are high school sweethearts and have been dating for 3 years.

for whatever reason, she set up a fake profile and started messaging him pretending to be someone she wasn’t. Although he initially said he had a girlfriend, She was very complimentary to him and persuasive, sending pics etc and he stupidly agreed to meet this person!

I am obviously angry he would fall for something like this and agree to meet a complete stranger. I am also totally against cheating and have told him how wrong this was from his side. He is only 16 and knows he has made a huge mistake. but I am also angry that she was so sly and manipulative. They have mutual friends and this has completely devastated him and ruined his friendships also.

Anyway, she has agreed to give it a go if he proves to her he can change and treat her better etc.

I am trying not to get involved but I can’t help but to feel angry at her for doing this. I don’t know how to advise him

Is this an hard lesson for him or is his trust going to also be ruined for her.

any advise would be appreciated.

It's not going to go far, ultimately neither of them can trust each other now - she's manipulative and he's prepared to cheat. Hopefully it will fizzle out.

I’m baffled at some of these responses as the mum to a 17 yo girl. He’s 16. Not a fully grown man. Your ds is still learning. As is the girl. What she did was pretty sneaky and they are both only 16. Hormones are all over the place.

It is unclear if he fancied the catfish profile and intended to actually meet up or if it was just agreeing to shut the person at the other end up. Agreeing to do what someone says in order to stop is quite a normal response.

My dd doesn’t block people even when I’ve asked her to so not everyone will just block a nuisance idiot and especially not off their own bat. Kids mess up. It’s what they do. And that’s to both kids. Tbh I’d be more cross with my dd had she done this than your ds.

And yes, I agree with the comments that being in a relationship from 13-16 is pretty intense. Too much. Edited to add: I’d be making sure he has plenty of time to do things, which don’t include his girlfriend. And advising him to stand up to the kids, who are being horrible to him.

Time to split up!
Keep out of it. They're both at fault.

Well she’s a manipulative little madam isn’t she! I hope your DS sees this, as well as what he did wrong.

My thinking exactly. When did children stop being children?

Oh please. I hope he sacks her off. What a weirdo.

He should run a mile from such craziness.