Do teenagers do things for themselves anymore when living at home?

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My children are 30 now and have full time jobs/ careers. When they were younger I worked full time during the week. My children washed and ironed their school uniforms when at secondary school, they did housework and their bedrooms only got tidied when they cleaned them themselves.
I see some of my friends whose children do nothing to help around the house. They dump washing on the floor, plates, cups etc are going mouldy in their rooms and do not help out in the house at all.
why do some parents not set their children up for real life?

They have forgotten to be parents and think they are friends

I have a 19yo employee who’s performing badly in part because he shows very limited initiative or consideration of others. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that he lives at home and has mentioned to me that he doesn’t do any housework, cooking, laundry etc. He just went on holiday and left several cups and rubbish on a desk actually! (We have hot desking)

DD (13) has chores that are non negotiable and also does extra stuff when I ask/when needed. It’s about being a functioning human being and helping each other out and doing nice things for each other .

My teens do their own washing, cook for the family a couple of evenings a week and (grudgingly) do household chores. I wouldn't let them do nothing but I do have to pick my battles.

It's possible they might, but only if their partner is foolish enough to put up with it. Adults largely learn pretty quickly to look after themselves pretty quickly once they have to. I wasn't really expected to do much at all round the house as a child/teen, but I managed fine when I went to uni and then properly moved out.

My dc are late teens. They've done their own laundry for a few years and are both pretty capable beginner cooks. They don't have specific set chores but will do whatever needs doing when asked.

Yes! I agree with you there.

so annoying.

Me too- 2 boys and I expect them to be able to look after themselves one day and not expect a woman to do it. They can cook, clean kitchen set and clear table, dust, hoover and mop. I wash for everyone but I don't iron the eldest one's clothes anymore since they tend to end up on the floor drobe. Still he's moving away to college soon and he'll be fine - he can do most chores pretty well.

@TooManyCupsAndMugs good luck for your son at college. It sounds like he's going to be a very independent young man x