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Stroppy teens and rain coats

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PaganOfTheYuleTimes · 04/06/2025 09:11

Please help, let me know what summer weight rain coat does your year 8 / year 8 teen girl wear in wet weather? Cos apparently I'm ruining DDs life currently by suggesting any rain coat she owns while she waits at bus stops in the pouring rain... thanks!

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PaganOfTheYuleTimes · 04/06/2025 09:12

Today she refused any coat despite the weather and wheedled DH into giving her my umbrella out the car before she got on the bus. So now I don't have one for the other dc school run... plus she's lost 2 umbrellas already this school year 😫

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Yorkshiremum80 · 04/06/2025 09:13

I have a year 7 boy and have decided the rain coat hill is not one I am willing to die on. He refuses to wear one and will just get wet. He wears a thick coat in winter so he's not getting cold just wet when it rains in spring and summer. A lot of school kids going to his school walk past our house and none of them are wearing coats over their blazers when it rains.

summerscomingsoon · 04/06/2025 09:15

My DS is 16 and only just started wearing a cost again after several years of not doing. it's just a young teen thing. Choose your battles is my advice 😀

Strawberriesforever · 04/06/2025 09:15

Try the umbrella.
It’s June so hopefully the natural consequence of getting soaking wet won’t lead to her being cold all day.

Xiaoxiong · 04/06/2025 09:15

Don't lend her an umbrella you need yourself - let her have one with her initials written handle in sharpie and that's it, if she loses it, she's getting wet or wearing a raincoat.

Strawberriesforever · 04/06/2025 09:16

She can buy her own umbrellas with her own money if she keeps losing yours.

redskydelight · 04/06/2025 09:16

Mine had an umbrella. Make her replace it with her own money if she loses it?
Unless she's prepared to wear the coat you are wasting your money, and she doesn't really need one just for waiting at the bus stop.

Octavia64 · 04/06/2025 09:17

Teens don’t wear coats.

this is an immutable fact of nature and not worth trying to change

CandleMeltAway · 04/06/2025 09:22

Really weirdly my teens and pretty much all the school children wore coats. It was seen as toddler behaviour and immaturity to not recognise the weather conditions and dress appropriately. Lots had coats and umbrellas, even the boys. The "cool kids" also viewed it as a sign of povvo behaviour that you weren't wearing a coat because you couldn't afford one. So it was a combination of both I think. Lots of girls had large tote handbags for school bags and thought themselves very sophisticated.

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PaganOfTheYuleTimes · 04/06/2025 09:44

Xiaoxiong · 04/06/2025 09:15

Don't lend her an umbrella you need yourself - let her have one with her initials written handle in sharpie and that's it, if she loses it, she's getting wet or wearing a raincoat.

I didn't 😭 dh dropped her to the bus stop on his way to the train station, all his fault!

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Pricelessadvice · 04/06/2025 09:45

Teens are weird. I also remember the shame of being told to wear a raincoat. Teens just get wet. It’s not cool to wear a raincoat.

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PaganOfTheYuleTimes · 04/06/2025 09:46

Seems like I'll lose this batle then! They don't have blazers at her secondary or even that would be something. She's been poorly and as shes an asthmatic I worry more about her being cold all day, it's not just waiting at the hus stop it's a 10 min walk to school at the other end and then waiting for me to get jer from the bus after school, she often has a wait as I have to collect her siblings first. I'll make her buy her own umbrella!:

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MujeresLibres · 04/06/2025 09:48

DC has a thin Nike jacket, of the type you'd wear while warming up for an outdoor sport. DC will not wear any other type of raincoat.

Ahwig · 04/06/2025 09:52

My parents used to tell the story of me coming home in a blizzard and my umbrella being nice and dry in my bag because “ it wasn’t raining” . It made sense to the teenage me at the time. I also remember again in the snow just wearing a pair of jeans, t shirt and ( for those brought up in the 70’s) a “ hacking jacket” . I don’t remember feeling cold on either occasion.

SunsetCocktails · 04/06/2025 10:03

Rain coat? For teenagers? What is this you speak of?!

Mine would only ever consider hoodies and one of those black puffy coats that they all seem to wear, making them completely indistinguishable from each other.

WhiskyandWater · 04/06/2025 10:12

One of mine wears a north face raincoat sometimes, the other has one from new look but they tend to just use an umbrella or get wet despite picking their own rain coats, they also wear socks rather than tights in winter and don’t wear winter coats or jumpers half the time, I just think hormones make them run hot.

Brefugee · 04/06/2025 10:14

she is old enough to decide. But DH does not get to give her your umbrella - she needs to give it back today, or he replaces it for you.

They are a law unto themselves at that age, but a bit of water won't kill her.

notnowmrshudson · 04/06/2025 10:15

had to look for this reel again because it's what i instantly remembered after reading this post https://www.instagram.com/reel/DA_uK9cuRg0/ 😂 we get so annoying when we bug them about it - but they really need it!!

Renabrook · 04/06/2025 10:21

Well i presume they are old enough to get on with their choice

dogcatkitten · 04/06/2025 10:28

Some sort of hoody jacket might be more acceptable than a raincoat, otherwise they get wet. Some sort of hat/cap to keep her hair dry might be OK, would have to be her choice of hat!

CurlewKate · 04/06/2025 10:32

Coats are not a hill to die on, trust me. It won’t hurt them to get a bit cold and damp-and they’ll come round soon enough. Or not-I’m nearly 60 and HATE wearing a coat!

LuLuRN · 04/06/2025 10:34

At least she uses an umbrella, my 15 year old wouldn’t be seen with a brolly or wearing a coat, cos oh my god that’s so embarrassing. I just leave her to get wet, but don’t get me started on the flimsy footwear in snow & rain, that is the one that really annoys me.

heatherwithapee · 04/06/2025 11:54

They won’t get a cold from getting rained on. If they want to walk round feeling damp and uncomfortable (presumably), let them. Eventually they’ll learn that wearing a coat is preferable. Or not. But their choice at that age.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 04/06/2025 12:42

I gave my DD1 one of those Pac a Mac style coats that she could keep in her bag, and cheap and cheerful enough to lose without much drama. At least if it was absolutely bucketing she had a choice and did actually wear it when I declined to drive the 10 mins to school. DD2 insists on the black puffa jacket with a brolly even though it's now far too warm for it.

If your DD is asthmatic then it's worth trying to find ways to keep her healthy. If she's as scatty as my oldest then a schoolbag that has a suitable slot on the outside so she can build a habit of always having one. A thin mac jacket in her locker/bag for really bad weather. A spare jumper or similar at school in case of a soaking.

Welshmum2010 · 05/06/2025 09:24

My daughter is 15 and she will
wear a black north face jacket that is the same as 90% of the other kids in school. We had a deal she would wear it and take to school if she had a new bag big enough. So that was one of these longchamp bags that are the fashion now over the big handbags. So I’m about £300 out of pocket