My son is bringing girls back.

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All my kids still live with me .
My eldest in 25
My middle child is 22
And my youngest is 8 .

My eldest is obviously doing what people do his age and going on nights out I have woke up plenty of mornings to him walking girls out the door so he is clearly having one night stands every other weekend.

Am I wrong for allowing this? Honest opinions please.

It's your home, so if you don't want him to bring strangers back then tell him and if he wants to continue, he'll probably move out.

I was clear with my kids when they became adults, I had no issues with boyfriends stopping (once I'd met them a few times) but no one night stands.

Your call though

My son started doing this. I put a stop to it.
I don't mind serious girlfriends staying but I was not putting up with one nights stands.
Plus you've got a little one at home , what sort of impact would that be having?

Theres no way I’d have done this when living at my mum’s house. I think it’s disrespectful.

Only proper partners allowed to stay over here.... My rules... Never been argued either...

Proper partners ok, one night stands just no, never.

Well other people’s opinions don’t really matter

If you’re comfortable with it, then continue

If not, stop.

Your house = your rules.

If you aren’t happy with this then tell him. Have a calm conversation with him.

If he wants one night shags then he gets a place of his own

If your eldest was a 25 year old daughter and she was bringing men home every weekend, would you feel differently about it?

Well it's your house. But you did ask.

Girlfriend, boyfriend, partner at that age, fair enough.

One night stands, move out. Show some respect for your family

He needs to move out. Bringing one nighters back to his mums, where his 8 year old sibling also lives, is grim to be honest.

I didn't allow it in my home, but your house = your rules. Then again, I had daughters and didn't want strange men in my house, especially with younger daughters around. I'm not comfortable with strangers in my home while I sleep. Established boyfriends I knew well enough to be comfortable with were allowed.

As others have said, it's up to you, but if it were me then no, I wouldn't be having it.

And to be honest I'm not sure why any female or male would want to go into a family home for a one night stand with a 25 year old.

A long term girlfriend sure.

Multiple girls and you have a young child? No! He’s 25 he can move out!

Really? Have you never had good sex?

I wouldn't be allowing that, not with an 8 year old in the house.

I wouldn’t allow that in my home, no.

@Curlyboot ??? Yes. But not with an 8 year old in the house as a one night stand with someone living with his mother.

Obviously up to you, but personally I wouldn't like this with an eight year old.

This

Do you actually think they’re being told who lives at the house before going back?

Jesus wept

how many one night stands told you that?

@Curlyboot fair point.

And I fairness I married very young. Very young. And am very rural so would know these things. But the point remains. 25 and living with mum would put me off and make me ask.

And as for my own. Kids far to young but nieces and nephews who live here respect that and wait till introduction and partner level

I wouldn't have fancied this at that age either.

On the plus side if he still lives with his mum, he's bound to have a duvet cover. And sheets on his bed.