My son is bringing girls back.

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All my kids still live with me .
My eldest in 25
My middle child is 22
And my youngest is 8 .

My eldest is obviously doing what people do his age and going on nights out I have woke up plenty of mornings to him walking girls out the door so he is clearly having one night stands every other weekend.

Am I wrong for allowing this? Honest opinions please.

Again, you clearly have very little experience with casual sex so your opinion on it is a bit pointless

My eldest did this a few times and I told him I didn’t want to be bumping into random women every weekend in my own home and that he can go to theirs or elsewhere if that’s what he wants to do.

Also explained with his younger brother being around I didn’t want this as an example of how to behave etc.

@Curlyboot

The post is not about casual sex. It's about allowing it within a family home with young children.

I have said, you, may not ask these things. Good for you. My area means I would know these things. And the point being not a chance with young children in the house.

But if that's your scenario you carry in and justify that.

This happened with my father in law. He said one phase that made us laugh but it got the message across. My bil had brought a girl home and no one else knew she was there. He had not turned up for work and they had called the house line ( before mobiles) . My fil knocked on his son's bedroom door and then walked in to to tell him work had called. He found a naked girl he'd never met in bed with his son. He said " good morning " followed by" it's nice to meet you but I'd rather not see you fuzzy bits first"

nope, not total randomers. they could be all kinds of crazy, steal things, get obsessive and turn up on your door step any time day or night. bad enough if just you and him but with a young child in the house i would be saying no. friends of friends, fwb, that kind of thing i think i'd be ok with at that age but unknown strangers in the house. no thanks.

It’s not appropriate - this is your child’s home. If your son wants to bring people back he needs to move out.

My mum used to say.... "this is not a knocking shop" 😂

I only allow proper gf and bf to come round which my kids agree with.

I wouldn't allow it. They are a complete stranger with access to your house, you have no idea what they could be going through as you all slept. Absolutely not.

When my 25 year old son started doing this (admittedly only a couple of times) I made it very clear it was time to get his own place. He did.

I didn't have small children in the house, but if I did I'd have been very annoyed.

It is completely wrong for you to allow strangers to stay in your home with an 8yo. Shocking that anyone needs to be told this tbh.

Are the other we children boys or girls?
What you allow the oldest to do, the younger will want to do even younger

If you have younger girls, do gay boys, would you be happy or feel safe with them bringing random men home? Random women could also be thieves?

I think 'don't invite anyone to our home that you've not known for more than a week' is a fair and decent rule for everyone to follow

Yes or go to her (parents?) house

No, you have a responsibility to your young child for your home to meet his needs.
The eldest should wait to be in a relationship or meet at their homes.

A proper GF no issue but ONS, they could nick stuff plus you have a kid in the house. They won’t know the layout of the house if drunk they could go in to the wrong bedroom, just no.

Nope wasn’t allowed here. Serious partners no randoms.

I've literally just read that thread - is this the same user??? Clearly none of the threads are genuine then 😂😑😑😑