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How would you react if your friends daughter spoke to you like this?

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Beetroot · 20/04/2008 20:49

They have come for Sunday lunch which we are cooking and we cook alot for them

We like doing this. It is not a problem at all.

I ask 14 year old to pop to shop for me to get some frozen peas as I have run out

She looks at me and groans
she then says -' only if your buy me a magazine'

I look at her and say 'I will buy you a magazine or I will feed you' and smile

Her mum gets cash out and gives her money to pay for peas and magazine

ds who is 14 was shocked!

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ellingwoman · 20/04/2008 21:14

It's not rude. She just feels like she's at home. Where obviously she only does a chore if she gets something in return. No biggy.

Celia2 · 20/04/2008 21:24

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Beetroot · 20/04/2008 21:29

next time I will say - 'only if it is something decent'

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lilolilmanchester · 20/04/2008 21:32

Am more shocked that her mother didn't back you up. Sorry if I am being thick here though - why did you ask your guest to go to the shop rather than your own DS?

jalopy · 20/04/2008 21:34

Rude.

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Beetroot · 20/04/2008 21:36

I have already said

ds had gone to get lemonade, he was on his way back but withouthis phone. so I asked her to go rather than ds go twice iykwim

more relaxed than a guest - though close fmailies

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lilolilmanchester · 20/04/2008 21:44

sorry - looked through the thread TWICE and didn't see that. Can see it now of course! Normal teenage behaviour I would say (given that you're so close and she's not just visiting for the first time or something) Stil think it's rude - but normal teenage "trying their luck" - but am far more more surprised at her mother's reaction TBH.

madamez · 20/04/2008 21:45

Oh do get over yourselrf, it's not like she called you a c*nt or anything.

clam · 20/04/2008 21:47

Doesn't sound to me like Beetroot was "dishingout orders." She asked her if she would go, not an unreasonable request and the kid was rude. I proabably would have shrugged that off (but privately felt , but for kid's mother to condone the behaviour by giving money for the magazine is

ellingwoman · 20/04/2008 21:53

IT'S NOT RUDE!!! 'Fuck off and do it yourself' would be rude. She was just bargaining like she does at home

Amapoleon · 20/04/2008 21:58

I think it is very rude and I would be mortified if one of my children spoke to someone like this.

themildmanneredjanitor · 20/04/2008 21:59

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Beetroot · 20/04/2008 22:02

mademaez - you are a very strange person, and rude - perhaps that is why you cannot see that this is rude as you can be far far ruder for no reason at all

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seeker · 20/04/2008 22:06

My dd has a friend who feels so at home here that she might say this - but with a grin. I would feel able to say "You have to be joking - get down the shop or no dinner for you" and we'd both laugh and she'd go. I wouldn't expect her mum to get out the cash though - and I think I'd be a bit cross with her if she did.

Oh, and I wouldn't pay for a 14 year old to read Take a break under any circumstances!

SilentTerror · 20/04/2008 22:13

Just Teenager behaviour imo. Strange she said it to you,obviously feels at home. Wouldn't be offended though.

2shoes · 21/04/2008 11:10

if one of ds's mates said something like that i would just take it as a joke.
I would probably think they were getting a wee bit to familiar.

GooseyLoosey · 21/04/2008 11:16

I wouldn't like it at all. However, was there a reason that your 14 year old ds could not have got them, if not, maybe she felt aggrieved at being asked.

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Beetroot · 21/04/2008 13:00

I THOUGHT I HAD MADE THIS CLEAR

I AM NOT ANGRY FDALLING OUT WITH THEM
JUST SURPRISED

ds was on his way to the shops to buy lemonade

he did not have his ohone with him

dinner was nearly ready so didn't want to wait for him to get back and then go again

why on earth should I not as my matres kids to go to the shops. We are very freindly, we go away with them eetc etc

However

I would be very cross if any of my children behaved liek that - however familiar they are withe them.

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Beetroot · 21/04/2008 13:01

SHE was not joking

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FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2008 13:01

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Beetroot · 21/04/2008 13:01

she thinks she is a princess

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2shoes · 21/04/2008 13:04

I get you beety
ds had a mate who was like this.
he was very annoying(cue 2shoes biting her tounge) lucky for me he called dd stupid got thumped and has never been since.
If she was not joking then I would have been very and not amused.

NomDePlume · 21/04/2008 13:10

I'm with Spidermama.

TBH, I'd have asked one of my own kids rather than a guest. She was a bit cheeky, but it's not something I would get het up about.

FYIAD · 21/04/2008 13:12

if we had a shop near and if dd1 was 14 I suspect she would say that to me

and I probably would say ok

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Beetroot · 21/04/2008 13:13

to you enid - and to your mate?

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