How would you react if your friends daughter spoke to you like this?

[Beetroot]

They have come for Sunday lunch which we are cooking and we cook alot for them

We like doing this. It is not a problem at all.

I ask 14 year old to pop to shop for me to get some frozen peas as I have run out

She looks at me and groans
she then says -' only if your buy me a magazine'

I look at her and say 'I will buy you a magazine or I will feed you' and smile

Her mum gets cash out and gives her money to pay for peas and magazine

ds who is 14 was shocked!

[lljkk]

I wouldn't have been shocked, afraid my 8yo DS tries on lines like this, too! I'd think -- "Fat chance, hun" the instant she said it.

Coz ds doesn't get a magazine or whatever other reward he's angling for (ever, unless he is asking if he could spend his own money which is different). He's just trying it on.

If the other mum coughed up the zine money, I wouldnt judge.

But if my ds said it to another parent I'd be quite cross & embarassed. Dont know if I cough up or not. I hope not.

[DarthVader]

One thing to say this at home and another thing to say it to you.

I think she needs to know that this is the case or you will be doing her no favours. You could tell her yourself if you have a close relationship or ask her mum to talk with her about it.

[MrsSnape]

Its a normal thing to say to your parents I think, but not someone elses! I wouldn't have dared and I was a 'nightmare teen'!

[tigermoth]

My reaction would have been the same as WWWs. Shocked as in a 'you must be having a joke' sort of way.

I am shocked that she expects a magazine for going on a short errand. And even more shocked that her mother gave her the cash without batting an eyelid!

[CrushWithEyeliner]

She sounds overly confident and very Rude - and has probably been brought up with bribes. This proves why bribes are a shit way to bargain with your child. For her to say it to anyone other than family is cheeky, can't believe the mum didn't have words.

[Pimmpom]

More surprised at you mate's response. Nothing surprises me with teenagers

[Buda]

I can't imagine feeling that familiar that I would have spoken to an adult like that at that age. I think it was a bit rude.

[BetteNoire]

Typical, cheeky,'the world owes me a living' teenager response.
But I would have expected her parent to pick her up on it, and ask her to apologise.
And she wouldn't have got any magazine if she were my DD.

[FYIAD]

no they wouldnt say it to mate

they would look at me and I would look stern and they would go

[GooseyLoosey]

If your ds was out running an errand already then not on at all and if I was her mother she most certainly would not have got her magazine!

[Beetroot]

to you enid - and to your mate?

[FYIAD]

if we had a shop near and if dd1 was 14 I suspect she would say that to me

and I probably would say ok

[NomDePlume]

I'm with Spidermama.

TBH, I'd have asked one of my own kids rather than a guest. She was a bit cheeky, but it's not something I would get het up about.

[2shoes]

I get you beety
ds had a mate who was like this.
he was very annoying(cue 2shoes biting her tounge) lucky for me he called dd stupid got thumped and has never been since.
If she was not joking then I would have been very and not amused.

[Beetroot]

she thinks she is a princess

[FluffyMummy123]

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[Beetroot]

SHE was not joking

[Beetroot]

I THOUGHT I HAD MADE THIS CLEAR

I AM NOT ANGRY FDALLING OUT WITH THEM
JUST SURPRISED

ds was on his way to the shops to buy lemonade

he did not have his ohone with him

dinner was nearly ready so didn't want to wait for him to get back and then go again

why on earth should I not as my matres kids to go to the shops. We are very freindly, we go away with them eetc etc

However

I would be very cross if any of my children behaved liek that - however familiar they are withe them.

[GooseyLoosey]

I wouldn't like it at all. However, was there a reason that your 14 year old ds could not have got them, if not, maybe she felt aggrieved at being asked.

[2shoes]

if one of ds's mates said something like that i would just take it as a joke.
I would probably think they were getting a wee bit to familiar.

[SilentTerror]

Just Teenager behaviour imo. Strange she said it to you,obviously feels at home. Wouldn't be offended though.

[seeker]

My dd has a friend who feels so at home here that she might say this - but with a grin. I would feel able to say "You have to be joking - get down the shop or no dinner for you" and we'd both laugh and she'd go. I wouldn't expect her mum to get out the cash though - and I think I'd be a bit cross with her if she did.

Oh, and I wouldn't pay for a 14 year old to read Take a break under any circumstances!

[Beetroot]

mademaez - you are a very strange person, and rude - perhaps that is why you cannot see that this is rude as you can be far far ruder for no reason at all

[Amapoleon]

I think it is very rude and I would be mortified if one of my children spoke to someone like this.