Teen girls, all advice welcome

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Been plucking up the courage to post about my DD 14. She is 5ft 3 and has finished growing and weighs 9 stone, just fitting into size 10. Loves her food and I've tried everything to help her keep her weight down. Basically she is all tits and arse and compared to her friends she is a heiffer.

Some have grown taller and all are skinny. I think that she feels embarrased about her figure and thats why she stays at home with me and isnt branching out into the teenage world of boys, fashion etc.

I was so different at her age, was out all the time looking for some action ect, so much so that I dont understand her. On the plus points she is pretty, lovely, caring and bright but I know she wants to fit in and would love attention from boys etc. but its not happening to her, just to her mates. Any advice?

Please please please don't make any issue about dieting and weight, her body is adjusting to the changes that puberty has heralded and she may be carrying a little extra puppy fat that will shed of it's own accord. Your dd needs a very positive and encouraging influence from you - praise , praise and more praise is what she will thrive on - nothing less. I was teased at school for being an 'anorexic stick insect', purely on the basis that I was very thin and I hated it. I was a late developer and therefore didn't develop any curves 'til my late teens. I didn't have any particular issues with htis but always wanted to be curvy like the other girls...just remind your dd of this if she is feeling low.

Re going out, so what if she doen't want to go out with her friends - it may be nothing more than it not being her thing at the moment. Even though you enjoyed partying as a teenager, this doesn't imply that your dd will - remember that she gets her genes from two parents !! As long as she is happy with the company at home and isn't hiding/isolating herself away from others, then she sounds to be doing just fine. Not only is she pretty but a bright, intelligent girl to boot, lucky you!!

Summer 111, Thanks. Its a couple of months ago that I started this post. DD is continuing to do well at school and is doing the Duke of Edinburgh award, also a Saturday job. She is socialising with her friends e.g cinema, shopping trips but doesn't want to hang around with them aimlessly. I'm learning to accept that this is her personality and she is an individual that won't run with the crowd. I am incredibly proud of her and she knows this.

I was feeling a bit down and worrying about her at the time but I know she is happy and that's the main thing.