Is it acceptable to walk to friends house in daylight in PJs

[Desmonda]

21yo daughter just came back into house. 7pm. Daylight on a busy street in town where all locals pass from supermarkets etc. Wearing pyjamas. Had walked to friends house 10 doors down. I had already pulled her up about going to her BFs in pyjamas recently and told her I didn’t think it was acceptable and looked slobbish. I’m raging she’s done it again especially on a busy street. I think it’s just being very lazy and lacking standards.

AIBU to expect her to quickly change out of pj bottoms into leggings or jeans to pop into her friends house ?

Ten doors down, I couldn't get too wound up about it, we used to do it at uni, friends living next door and across the street and 4 doors down, that was early 2000s

I wouldn't ever do it but I think at her age it is up to her honestly.

I hate seeing pjs outside the house but it’s definitely considered acceptable and indeed fashionable among teens. I just find it so lazy. But what do I know!?

She's not a teen- She a fully grown adult. So think you need to work on that a bit.

I think going out in pyjamas is a bit weird. However they are clothes and some look like day clothes so what wrong with wearing them?

Maybe she needs to get some more comfy clothes that she can go out in.

I have "day pyjamas" extremely comfy harem trousers or shorts and various t shirts. I can go to the shops and not be accused of wearing pyjamas.

Assuming because she was wearing night clothes she hadn't showered either?

Agree most teens find them. Acceptable any time of day!

10 doors down wouldn't bother me.

Did she sleep in them last night and have them on all day today before she went out?

What another adult wears is none of your business.

Raging? Fucking hell. Only on MN.

Fine. I remember there was this PJ craze to the supermarkets.

You have no more control over what she wears than you do over any stranger in the street. She is a grown adult. I mean you can’t even get her on the old “my house my rules” grounds because she was wearing them outside the house!

FWIW I think it’s slobby too. Some people wear underwear under their pyjamas (I don’t). I guess less grim if she had bra and knickers in, there’s a fine line style wise between pyjamas and “leisurewear” anyway.

I wouldn’t do it. Where I live (France) it would be unheard of. No one in my apartment building even goes out in leisurewear unless they are actually exercising, so going out in pjs is just… 🤷‍♀️.

but she’s an adult and frankly what she wears is her business. Why are you ‘raging’ about what she wears? How does it affect you?

She’s 21 so it’s up to her and I couldn’t get worked up about 10 doors down.

It's not something I'd do and I'd probably make a comment saying it would be better to put some proper clothes on. However, it's not something worth raging about and your 21 year old daughter is an adult so you need to let go a bit.

She's 21!!!

I was going to say no, not OK, but my kids are just at the age where they are starting to wander to mates houses without me being involved. I wouldn't let them leave the house in pj's. But yours is an adult so it would have to be filed under "things I wouldn't do that way" and ignored.

Is that gallic shrug?

Her clothing choices are none of your business.

She could be wearing a tutu with flippers and a formal hat if she wanted and it would still be none of your business.

Raging ??!! 😂😂😂😂

I would be very disappointed if my dd did that. She never has.

It's acceptable and funny and cute.
Interesting this is posted in 'teenagers' when she is 21!

Shes an adult, keep your beak out.

10 houses down is no biggie, the entire street I live on has seen me in my dressing gown, regularly.

She's 21, not teenager; not a child.

Maybe it's time she moved out, if you're raging at this.

She's been adult for three years and it seems that you're infantilising (sp?) her

Were they clean or skanky? It's not so much the pj's as the condition of them

Part of bigger issue. Raging at her very rude and disrespectful response / tone towards me ‘That she can do what she likes’. Bedroom is often a tip. Is lazy about the house and doesn’t pay board money as has just finished uni. Works 1-2 days per week ( sometimes gets OT and is trying to get more OT) but any time we ask her to make dinner for example she regularly has an excuse not to do it. Or she’ll do it on her terms, might make dinner for some of the family. I can come home from work and she’s either out with BF or in her bedroom waiting on me or her dad to make tea ( he works from home). We taxi her to and from work coz she doesn’t have a car and public transport is not suitable. Have asked her to pull her weight around the house while everyone else is working but she’s pushing back on that too with excuses for being busy. Her attitude tonight is straw that broke the camels back, acting very entitled and I’ve had enough …. We’ve been too soft on her…