My DC is almost 18 and was really keen to learn to drive but 45 lessons in and she is struggling. She likes her instructor and feels that each week she is getting somewhere but it is a slow process- instructor has said she is very nervous, jumpy and that although a lovely girl she is a long long way off passing her test. DH has decided he will not pay for any more lessons with the current instructor and wants her to try someone else but she suffers from anxiety and she doesn't want to have to go through all the anxiety of trying someone new, a different car etc when she gets on really well with her current instructor. If she didn't like her instructor and felt she wasn't getting anywhere it would be a different story but she really feels she is getting somewhere now.
He says she needs to pay for her own lessons when she can afford it as we don't have a bottomless pit of money and she just needs to start listening as driving is a very very simple skill. No it is not - for some yes but not for others.
I don't have a driving licence so can't go out with her. I made the decision when I was 17 due to anxiety that I didn't want to drive - but she really wants to do it it is just taking a long long time. I worry now that she will never go back to it and although I don't drive it is a life skill that I would be willing to keep paying for as I am sure she will grasp it eventually. We have bought her a car as we thought getting out practicing would help but DH says she is a liability as she hasn't a clue so he won't go in the car with her again until she has passed her test - she gets really really nervous when in the car with him so I don't think it a true reflection of her driving skills
Has anyone's child stopped due to the financial strain and then gone back to it when they had the money to fund it themselves? The trouble is she has lost all confidence now as H just telling her she is a liability and completely rubbish.
She is hoping to get more hours at work after A levels so she can pay and I am thinking to maybe look for a weekend evening job to pay so she can carry on but DH will not use any more of his hard earned cash on paying for lessons.