Anyone have teens that behave like this?

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I have 2 teenagers -14dd and 17ds. When they were younger I worked hard to make sure that they had nice table manners- used a knife and fork properly, cut up food properly etc. When they were on play dates people used to make comments about how polite they were and how nicely they ate. Fast forward to now and I feel like I’ve got 2 strangers in the house. Dd puts her knife in her mouth all the time and my son refuses to use a knife. They also used to speak nicely but both have got really really sloppy about how they speak. It really makes me wonder why I made such an effort to instil manners when both have them have regressed.

Sloppy in their speech how?

My 14 year old DD talks like (what she would call) a roadmap (whatever that is). But it sounds terrible. Innit. Sigh. I feel your pain.

Roadman! Not roadmap!!

My 14 year old dd now refuses to really contribute at meal times. I am torn between just making dinner meals chill time on the sofa as we spend so much time together and she eats breakfast/ lunch at the table and reinforcing a strict dinner regime.

Its just myself and her and after a long school/ work day and after cooking together, we are both shattered and want to eat looking at screens

Meals have always been at the table growing up

Its a tricky one

Allow it fam

🤣

Just start talking like the mandem. Watch them cringe!!! 🤣🤣

Do tea on the sofa! Even in if it's just some nights. Everyone is knackered at the end of a long day, I love vegging out eating my tea in front of the TV some nights. You might have better quality time together that way

I was wondering this! We've always eaten at the table as a family and I instilled table manners in them all. DS18 now appears to simply shovel food in, whilst talking with his mouth full and occasionally glancing at a phone (despite the fact that we are clear on no phones at the table).

He is currently at home so little - mostly at gf house - that I'm biting my tongue not to say, 'Put the sodding phone away' or 'FGS stop eating so quickly and stop shovelling it in!' as there is a lot of 'OMG you're always having a GO at me!'

14 year old ds "you get me"

Me "actually no I don't"

My dc do the same. I hate it. I do not know where the accent comes from. I have a video of them from when they were about six and they spoke perfectly clearly and now they sound like gangsters.

Mine does the sane. I was watching young masterchef and noticed lots of them sad do you get me, arnt gonna lie, respect and bro.

Mega cringe. Why why why? I want to fast forward and hope this horrible way of dressing and speaking goes away. Is this only in the U.K.?
We are moving so hopefully only here 🤣

My DD used to speak like Hermione Grainger and her nickname at school was Posh now she speaks 'posh gangsta' innit

My mantra is 'it's just a phase'

Ordinance Survey style 😂😂

Yes. Maybe call her a roadmap!

Bro doesn’t wanna sit at the table

I can’t stand it. Mine are fine with table manners but Bro does a lot of things which are really suss

Ha - secondary school and TikTok accent readjustment. Mine can at least speak proper if they need to in front of grandparents. I’ll take it.

My teenager does the basics but they are us nor robots just because we have decided they have to act a certain way doesn't mean they will

Teenagers always have there own cultural norms to follow that change over the years but are always different to adult societal norms.

yours sound perfectly normal and are just adapting to fit into the world they are in. They will come back

I threaten to use the same language back to them - in front of their friends. Eg.
Hey fam! You comin, innit? Back to our end?
Cue mortified glances.

You've got to get streetwise.

"Dis bitch don' getcha. Jive turkey muddafucca!"

Ordinance Survey stylee!

When they were younger they had to conform, not they are older they make their own decisions and you dont have that level of control

These are not important things. Are they kind people?

Just a phase. My 22 yr old is finally now coming out the end of it … is far more polite now. Speaks better and is generally more socially and self aware of how he comes across